Today there are more ways to meet women online than ever before. There are dating sites, social media, mutual friends, online groups, and even chat rooms.
It shouldn’t be as daunting as walking up to a girl in real life and introducing yourself. However, because getting that initial conversation started with a girl who you aren’t sure is actually interested isn’t always easy, it can knock your confidence, making you feel as though it’s just as tough to meet women online as it is in real life.
But it’s not! It’s time to dust yourself off, get your phone out again, and prepare your best chat-up lines. You just need to know where to go and what to do. Let’s take a look.
1. Online Dating Sites
There are plenty of online dating sites out there, from the free ones (POF, OK Cupid), to the subscription services (eHarmony, Match). If you’ve tried one or two and literally got no where, you might want to venture out of your comfort zone and try a new site.
POF and OK Cupid are notoriously hard places to get a woman’s attention. They’re free, which means pretty much every single guy on earth is on there! With that many guys to choose from, it’s hard for a girl to make a decision.
Paid websites narrow things down a bit, and because a woman is paying for this, it means she’s serious about dating. So even if she doesn’t reply to you, she’ll probably at least check your profile if you message her.
But the biggest pain with paid services are just that – you have to pay! If you don’t land even one date, it’s a waste of your cash.
Whichever site you decide to use, there is no silver bullet for success. However, these tips will help you meet women online:
• Smile in your photos – SO many guys don’t smile in their photos. You might think it looks sexy. Girls who don’t know you think it looks creepy or intimidating. Either way, you look gloomy as heck. And let me tell you now, girls love fun-loving guys even if they’re not the hottest in the world.
• Make your bio neither too short nor too long – too short and you’re giving the girl no meat to feed on, too long and you’re overwhelming her.
• Establish a common interest – In your first message, pick up on something in her profile. If she likes skiing, make a reference to it.
• Don’t message too much – If she doesn’t reply initially, forget it and move on. If she replies but then takes a break, don’t follow up and nudge her. Just wait. If she was enjoying talking to you, she’ll be back in her own time.
For tips on great opening lines for online dating, check this article out.
2. Social Media Is A Great Way To Meet Women Online
Seen a cute girl comment on a friend’s post on Facebook? Reply to her comment if you’ve got something to say!
On Facebook, you’ve got a great chance to chat to mutual friends. Get involved with discussions, even if you don’t know the person. Ignite a conversation if she looks gorgeous. Say something smart. Be funny.
At the end of the day, this is a super duper easy chance to talk about a mutual interest with a mutual friend. And if the conversation goes really well, take it away from your friend’s wall and into private messages.
At this point, you can steer the conversation away from the topic at hand and onto something else. For example, what else is she interested in?
3. Online Groups
If you’re not part of an online group on Facebook yet, you’re really missing out.
Online groups that are buzzing with activity are a great way to meet women online. Everyone who is in the group already has at least one shared interest!
Find groups related to your interests, and request to join the ones that seem to be the busiest. Ignore the ones that are dead.
Also, it’s important to find a group where you know there will be women, such as marketing or arts-related.
A group for repairing old cars? Come on!
4. Meet Women Online In Chat Rooms
Chat rooms were probably the first way all guys met women online back in the late nineties. But you know what? Chat rooms are still booming, and if you pick the right one, you just might meet your dream girl.
Probably Not Your First Choice
Chat rooms are probably your weakest option, as they’re not necessarily FULL of local women. But people have met their girlfriends and even wives in these apps. And because everyone is so laid-back and up for a chat, it’s an easy way to make a connection with women and start flirting.
Once you start flirting in a chat room, make sure you’ve got some lines ready. For a bit of help, check out our flirting tips and examples.
Just make sure that, whatever app, group or room you enter, you always stay POSITIVE and fun. Don’t be a downer. Be the guy that makes people laugh. Now go and meet women online!