Having spent many years in a long distance relationship, I learned firsthand how hard it is to keep one flirty, fun, and fiesty. Luckily, text messages can be your ally. Are you tired of telling your partner what you made for dinner? Or sending the same “I miss you” text? Read on for some fresh ideas on how to keep your connection strong over any distance.

Being apart is never easy but long distance texting can help. There are definitely some positive aspects to living in different places. Are you scratching your head trying to think of something good?

How about the fact that everything around you is somewhat foreign to your partner? Think of yourself as their “eyes.” You choose what to share with them and what other bits you’d like to leave aside.

Set Long Distance Texting Goals

Now, take a deep breath and lock your cell phone before you start bombarding your partner with mile long texts whining about your co-workers or the long lines at the poorly stocked supermarket. Use long distance texting to your advantage by taking a minute to decide what you hope to gain from your text mission.

  • Do you want your partner to eventually pack up their bags and move to wherever you are?
  • Stay connected and show your partner they are a priority?
  • Are you confident about your relationship, or are you trying to discover if you and your partner are really meant to be together?

…and the list goes on

Don’t Be The Bad News Bear

There is no right or wrong answer. Everything depends on you, your partner, and your particular situation. The only thing that you should try to avoid is aimless texting. While venting and complaining may seem like interesting texting material to you, it will soon sap the fun and romance right out of your relationship. Instead focus on learning how to flirt in a long distance relationship.

Long Distance Texting Examples

Instead of texting:
“The weather sucks here, it’s always raining.”

Make them excited to visit you with:
“It rains here a lot, but there are a few “indoor activities” that we could enjoy together…”

Instead of sending this selfish “me, me, me” message:
“I don’t know how much longer I’m going to be able to handle this situation.”

Make your message celebrate the strength of your connection:
“This situation is tough, but you are worth the sacrifice.”

Instead of writing something generic:
“I miss you”

Be specific about what you miss:
“Missing your touch, smell and kisses…”

Have Fun With Long Distance Text Flirting

Flirting is all about being playful and creating sexual tension, so let your imagination run wild.

“Do you have any idea how irresistible you are, even through a screen? Craving your body next to mine.”

“I can’t help but imagine the taste of your lips and the touch of your skin.”

“I’ve been imagining all the ways I would tease and please you if I were there…”

“I wish you were here right now so I could whisper in your ear all the dirty thoughts I’ve been having about you.”

“I want to know all your secret desires and deepest fantasies.”

“Tonight, as you lay in bed, imagine my hands exploring your body, caressing every inch of you.”

A Few Final Tips For Keeping Your Connection Strong

Remember, the key to a successful long distance relationship is maintaining a balance of consistency, creativity, fun, excitement and emotional connection. Here are a few final tips to keep in mind as you bridge the miles:

Don’t Forget Consistent Check-Ins: Make it a goal to check in with each other at least once a day, whether it’s a quick text or a longer conversation. This helps you stay connected and shows that you’re thinking of each other.

Make Your Communication Meaningful: Strive for deeper and more meaningful conversations by discussing your thoughts, feelings, aspirations, fears, dreams and experiences.

Get Creative: Challenge yourselves to send creative and engaging texts that go beyond the usual “How was your day?” messages. Share interesting articles, funny memes, or create personalized stories or inside jokes together.

Schedule Calls: Plan regular video or voice calls by setting specific days and times to look forward to, and making them a priority in your schedules.

Send Them Surprises and Thoughtful Messages: Surprise your partner with sweet and unexpected texts throughout the day, such as compliments, appreciation, or “thinking of you” messages. Show them that they are always on your mind.

Be Transparent: Build trust by being open, honest, and transparent in your communication. Make it a goal to share your thoughts and fix any misunderstandings quickly.

Have fun with long distance texting and use the time apart to your advantage…make them crave more than your messages, make them crave you!

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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    1. Hi Albert,
      I would try keeping the text messages light and fun. Ask her questions, compliment her and make plans to meet up in person. If you still see that she is unresponsive then maybe it’s time to move on…Sometimes there is nothing that you can do if she is not interested in communicating with you…

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