Being apart is never easy. However, there are definitely some positive aspects to living in different places. Are you scratching your head trying to think of something good?
How about the fact that everything around you is somewhat foreign to your partner? Think of yourself as their “eyes.” You choose what to share with them and what other bits you’d like to leave aside.
I Wish…Long Distance Texting As It Should Be
Now, take a deep breath, put on your thinking cap, and lock your cell phone before you start bombarding your partner with mile long texts whining about your co-workers or the long lines at the poorly stocked supermarket. Use long distance texting to your advantage by taking a minute to decide what you hope to gain from your text mission.
– Do you want your partner to eventually pack up their bags and move to wherever you are?
– Are you clear on the amount of time you will be apart? Are your texts simply a means to keep your relationship healthy during your separation?
– Or, are you confident about your relationship, or are you anxious to discover if you and your partner are really meant to be together?
…and the list goes on
Don’t Be The Bad News Bear
There is no right or wrong answer. Everything depends on you, your partner, and your particular situation. The only thing that you should try to avoid is aimless texting. While venting and complaining may seem like interesting texting material to you, it will soon sap the fun and romance right out of your relationship.
Long Distance Texting Examples
Instead of texting:
“The weather sucks here, it’s always raining.”
Make them excited to visit you with:
“It rains here a lot, but there are a few “indoor activities” that we could enjoy together…”
Instead of sending this selfish “me, me, me” message:
“I don’t know how much longer I’m going to be able to handle this situation.”
Make your message celebrate the strength of your connection:
“This situation is tough, but you are worth the sacrifice.”
Instead of writing something generic:
“I miss you”
Be specific about what you miss:
“Missing your touch, smell and kisses…”
Have fun with long distance texting and use the time apart to your advantage…make them crave more than your messages, make them crave you!
i like this, claudia thank you for this smart idear
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Texting tips please.
I always text her butvher response is not welcoming.what can i do to keep it alive?
I would try keeping the text messages light and fun. Ask her questions, compliment her and make plans to meet up in person. If you still see that she is unresponsive then maybe it’s time to move on…Sometimes there is nothing that you can do if she is not interested in communicating with you…