More and more of us are getting into long distance relationships and asking ourselves how to keep a long distance relationship fun, romantic and fulfilling.
We meet someone, start dating and then life throws a curve ball. They accept a job offer in Japan, and we’re stuck at home in Kansas. Our love literally lives on the other side of the world from us. We’re happy that we found “our person” but sad at the same time. We can text, sure, but we want more than that. We want touch, too.
Common Long Distance Worries
I know how it is. Boy, have I been there! You’re at home and they’re a million miles away in another region or country. You want them to be right next to you so you can cuddle and pillow talk (and maybe even a few flirty pillow fights!). You deserve all that, but you can’t have it – at least not the moment.
Thank goodness you’ve at least got your smartphone for some instant communication.
But even then, there’s the worry that might not be enough. All kinds of questions pop up:
“What if my texts bore them? What if they lose interest? And what on Earth does it mean when they say ‘OK’??”
So, how can you keep your long distance relationship romantic and fresh?
It isn’t easy, and texting can be a minefield at the best of times, let alone when it’s long distance texting. But if you take heed of the following tips, you’ll have a much better chance of keeping the romantic flame burning strong until you see them in real life.
Share What’s Happening to You Right Now
The beauty of smartphones is that we can instantly share our surroundings with our partner, through either photos or videos.
Don’t be robotic about it, keep it random and spontaneous. If you’re out and about and spot something funny or cute, take a picture and send it to your partner.
Animal pics are always a winner. If you’re walking through a park and spot a squirrel gathering its nuts, snap and send it!
It’s important that your partner feels involved in your life when they’re away. You can easily do this by keeping them up to date with where you are and what you’re up to.
In the gallery checking some art? Take a picture and send it to the with a caption:
“I saw this painting and instantly thought of you.”
Enjoying a scenic hike, trying out a new recipe in the kitchen, or simply relaxing with a cup of coffee, take a picture or record a short video. Share these glimpses of your day-to-day experiences with your partner, accompanied by heartfelt captions:
“Taking a moment to soak in the beauty of nature. Wish you were here to enjoy this stunning sunset with me.”
“Trying out a new recipe tonight! Can’t wait to recreate it for you when we’re together again.”
Wherever you go and whatever you do, seize the opportunity to document it. Involve your partner by sharing photos and videos, inviting them to be a part of your experiences. These visual snippets serve as reminders of your shared journey, keeping the spark alive and strengthening the bond between you.
Remember the Small Things
Some things might seem small to us, but they’re often big things to our partners. And when you remember the small things, it’s a massive deal to them and they’ll literally love you forever.
When long distance texting, don’t just focus on the big stuff all the time. When it’s their birthday, you’re going to want to wish them a happy birthday, but you already knew you had to do that! So did they. It was expected.
What will really make them smile is when you remember the small things they’d thought you’d forgotten.
Remembering the small stuff and texting them about it isn’t easy if you have a poor memory. To make up for it, write things down. Whether it’s remembering their favorite book, a funny incident they shared, or an upcoming event they mentioned, taking the time to acknowledge and show interest in these small things strengthens your connection and makes your partner feel truly seen and cared for.
Won’t it be amazing when, on the morning of their huge presentation, you’re in their inbox, wishing them luck? They’d totally forgotten they’d told you about it, and yet there you are! You’re amazing!
So, keep those notes handy and surprise them with heartfelt texts that demonstrate your attention to detail. It’s these little gestures that make a big difference in long distance relationships, fostering love, appreciation, and a lasting bond.
These are thoughtful texts to send, and they’re always appreciated.
If you’re really missing them and this long distance thing is starting to annoy the heck out of you, show your longing in a very personal way.
Being generic and simply saying “I miss you!!” is totally fine, but it’s not all that personal. There are bigger chords you can strike and bigger heartstrings you can pull by putting a bit more effort into your texting.
Be specific. Let them know exactly what it is that you miss about them. Maybe you miss a certain noise they always make when eating something they love, or maybe you miss their witty sense of humor when they’re not around.
Or, perhaps you miss chatting about your favorite things when it’s their time to sleep (because of time zones). If they can’t talk (and you are sure you won’t be waking them up) send a voice message. Communication doesn’t have to be limited to written words. Hearing your voice can give them a sense of comfort and closeness, making the conversation more personal and intimate.
There is a really easy way to take the edge off a romance when all you’ve got is long distance texting. How? By being super negative and annoying!
Imagine he hasn’t texted for a few hours. That sucks, I know. But he’s probably been buys, no?
Maybe that doesn’t cut it with you. Maybe you insist that he still should have found the time to text you. And you go on offensive:
“Where are you? I texted you at 8 AM and haven’t heard from you all day! I’ve had the most stressful day EVER and you weren’t here!”
So you constantly keep asking him where he’s been and why he hasn’t texted you back…and soon you find yourself in a full on fight.
I get it. I know that it’s really frustrating when we’re kept waiting for a reply, especially when they’re so many miles away and texting is all we’ve got. We’ve got a whole day free to text but they’re nowhere to be found!
If they haven’t texted you back for a few hours, you can react in one of two ways: You can either get on with your day, knowing full well that they’re really busy and will get back to you as soon as they can, or you can send them text after text, asking where they are and getting increasingly upset and angry.
There is a third course of action, too: You could get angry but refrain from texting. The problem with this is that when they do eventually text back, you’re ready to explode and demand to know where the heck they were.
The Benefit Of Staying Calm
It’s super important that you stay calm and look at this situation with a positive attitude and be happy when they eventually text. Don’t point fingers or ignite the blame game.
Listen, long distance texting is hard enough without our partner getting on our backs when we’ve been too busy to text. It puts pressure on us, creates tension… and actually makes us want to text even LESS!
After all, why would we want to text someone when we know they’re just going to explode and ask us 101 questions?
Always think positively. You can text when they haven’t responded for a while, but make sure you don’t refer to the fact that they haven’t texted. Send pics. Talk about your day. Tell a joke. Pull them into something eventful going on in your life. Show gratitude for having them in your life. Here are a very positive text examples:
“Good morning, sunshine! Just wanted to remind you how grateful I am to have you in my life. Wishing you a day filled with love and happiness.”
“Hey babe, I was just thinking about the time we had that amazing adventure together. It still brings a smile to my face. Can’t wait to create more incredible memories with you.”
“I’m so proud of you and all that you’re achieving. Your dedication and hard work inspire me every day. Keep shining, my love!”
“Distance may separate us, but my love for you grows stronger every day. Just wanted to send you a virtual hug to make you feel my arms around you. You’re always in my thoughts.”
“I stumbled upon a playlist that reminds me of you. Sending you the link so we can enjoy the music together, even when we’re apart. Let’s have a mini dance party later!”
“You’re my rock. Whenever I feel down or homesick, I think of you and how we will be together soon. I’m so thankful for your love.”
“Guess what? I’ve planned a surprise for you 🙂 It’s going to be unforgettable, just like you. Can’t wait to see the look on your face!”
“I’m grateful for the little things you do that make our relationship special. Your texts, calls, and cute emojis brighten my day. Thank you for being the sweetest person in my life.”
“Just wanted to say how lucky I am to have someone as amazing as you. Your love and presence make this long distance journey worth every second. Counting down the days until we’re together.”
“No matter the distance, you’re always on my mind and in my heart. I love you more than words can express, and I’m grateful for every moment we’ve shared. You’re my forever and always.”
When we’re far away from our partner, one of the biggest problems we have to wrestle with is how to keep the relationship exciting.
How can you keep things exciting when you can’t touch or kiss your partner? When you can’t surprise them with breakfast in bed, some new lingerie or a weekend getaway? It’s difficult!
One of the things you do have is your phone and the power of flirting!
A lot of people just love to flirt on their phones (probably your partner is one of them). It is easy way of making sure the relationship continues to fizz. Who cares about discussing politics when you can play some flirty texting games?
Flirting is fun and ensures that a long distance relationship keeps ticking. Tease them, banter with them, and don’t be afraid to get a bit naughty now and then.
“I can’t stop thinking about the last time we were together. Your touch still lingers on my skin. Missing your kisses right now.”
“You know what’s even hotter than this weather? You, with that irresistible smile of yours. It always brightens my day.”
“I have a little secret. I found a shirt that smells like you, and it’s driving me crazy. Can’t wait to have you close again.”
“I just had the most incredible dream about us. It involved candlelight, soft music, and a lot of teasing. I’ll leave the rest to your imagination.”
Don’t Try to Read Between the Lines
There are many things that can harm long distance relationships, and one of them is our reading too much into a text.
You know how it goes: You went to bed last night with his loving text close to your heart. His words were so poetic and genuine!
Waking up the next day, the first thing you do is read the text again. All of a sudden, the smile fades from your face as the sun moves behind the clouds. In the cold light of day, you’re seeing his text totally different.
What if he didn’t mean what you thought he meant last night? What if he meant something else? Something not cool at all?!
Of course! You got a bit too giddy last night. You got swept up in a romantic wave. Now you see his words for what they really meant.
He’s not gonna marry you at all. He’s going to dump you!
We can literally drive ourselves crazy when we try to read too much into our partner’s texts! We wonder if they’re about to leave us each time they say: “OK”.
It’s not healthy. The best thing is to take their texts at face value and keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t worry.
And if it does seem like they’re in a bad mood., it doesn’t mean you’re the cause of it.
These are some long distance texting tips. If you’ve got some you’d like to add, feel free to share in the box below! We’d love to hear from you on your secrets for how to keep a long distance relationship!