Text messages are fast becoming the love letter of the modern age. So, what is the essence of love letters? What makes them so special? Well, there are a bunch of things, such as the thought that goes into them, and the fact that they are not a necessity; rather they are an unexpected treat.
Well, in texting there is nothing more exciting than receiving the text you don’t expect – especially if it’s super cute to boot. Sending cute and fun text messages out of the blue is like picking someone a flower – it’s a romantic gesture that makes them feel special and loved just because of the action itself.
But for a lot of people, random text messages don’t come easy. It can feel unnatural to think up something to write that conveys your feelings without being OTT and mushy.
Rules For Mastering The Art Of Random Text Messages
Whether you’re one of those people who struggles, or you’re a convert who just wants to step up their game, follow these guidelines to become an expert in no time flat.
1. Find The Balance
When you’re sending a totally off the cuff message to someone, you have to be sure to strike the right balance. While you do want to make them feel adored, this isn’t a special birthday text – don’t gush too much – but it’s also not a text to your friend about your lunch plans.
The trick to this is to not text anything that you wouldn’t say in the supermarket.
It sounds strange, but hear me out: if you’re at the checkout and you’re feeling a bit frisky, you might learn over and whisper:
“I love your dress, you look so elegant”
But you definitely wouldn’t stop the trolley and say:
“I can’t imagine being without you”, while you’re standing in front of the tomatoes, would you?
Same goes for these little gems – keep it cute, maybe even a bit naughty without going over the top.
2. Pick The Right Time
The best time to receive one of these treats is obviously when you’re not expecting it, so make sure you’re sending them at totally random times rather than right on the dot of your regular daily lunch break, or as soon as the clock hits 5pm.
3. Get Personal
When you’re wondering what to send, write something only the two of you know about – such as an inside joke or a shared experience.
Instead of wishing them a good day, try something like:
“I hope your day is as good as that time you found $20 on your way to work”.
“Can’t stop smiling thinking of your cheeky grin when you were caught cheating at monopoly last night.”
Make it real to make it cute.
4. Make It A Ritual
One way to be totally cute is to turn your random text messages a bit of a habit. Make your special someone expect it, but never know when, or what.
For example, whenever you’re apart for a few nights, text them something special at a different time each day. Flowers don’t get boring if you never know what to expect, or when to expect them.
Random text messages are the perfect way to spike any kind of relationship with a little bit of excitement and a little bit of romance without going too over the top.
So if you’re looking to kick things into the next gear, or get them started from scratch, just follow these rules and you’ll find yourself the master in no time at all.