Flirting over text is a fun, quick way to spice things up and really build up sexual tension, be it in a long-term relationship, or just a fun little fling. While you’re caught in the grip of a raunchy text-a-thon, it might seem like a good idea to snap a quick shot, or tell your partner exactly what they want to hear to get their imagination going. But does this actually work?

A picture may paint a thousand words, but once you’ve seen it, you’ve seen it. That’s it. Finito. (Also, who’s got the time to scroll through a thousand words of text on their smart phone these days?) That’s where visual texting chimes in.

To leave an impact over text message, you’re going to have to get a lot more creative then just pressing, “shoot” ‘n’ “send”.

If you really want to make an impression on their imagination and not just their inbox, here are some visual texting tips to get you started:

1. Show, Don’t Tell

You’re laying in bed after an amazing date the night before, and he texts you, asking what you’re doing.

Don’t just text him the facts, or flick him a photo – paint it for him so he doesn’t only know what you’re doing, but sees in his head exactly how you’re doing it. That my friend, is visual texting at it’s best!

“Laying in bed”, is a lot different to him visualizing you curled up in your cream sheets surrounded by pillows, with you satin nightgown falling off your shoulder – and I know which one he wants to see.

The same goes for you guys, instead of telling her that you are off to the gym, tease her instead with:
“Just got done lifting…soaking wet…thinking of your delicious curves…wish you were here to shower with me ;)”

2. Create Suspense

If you’ve spent all day planning the perfect evening together, don’t text her in the afternoon saying, “I’ve got the best night planned!” and then begin to list off everything you’ve scheduled for the evening – it ruins the surprise.

The key to visual texting is letting her know that something’s going down, without being too specific.

Try texting, “You’re going to love what you find when you come upstairs”.

This leaves it all up to her imagination, and if you text her three hours in advance, that’s a whole lot of imagining she’ll be doing.

3. Make Them Work For It

Did you receive the classic, “what are you wearing ;)?” text again? Don’t fall for it this time; make him guess with inventive visual hints.

For example, instead of texting straight back with the design, color and style of your short black dress, try:

“It comes to the bottom of my thigh, just above me knee and has a long gold zipper that goes down past my lower back.”

This means that he goes through a few wardrobe choices in his head, picturing you in several of your sexiest outfits before landing on the right one. If he’s taken that dress off you before, this text will really get his blood pumping.

Guys, bring back images of sexy times, by texting something like:

“Can’t seem to find my favorite boxers…are they under your bed? ;)”

4. Visual Texting is a Two-way Street

It’s all fun and games, until it’s a one-man sport. If you’re going out of you way to stimulate your partner’s imagination into an infatuated ball of lust, it’s only fair that they reciprocate.

Hint at them that you’re pretty keen to hear what’s going on round their side of town, and if they don’t get the message, make it clear:

Ask him to describe how your hair smelled last night, how your skin felt or what he wants to do to you next time you’re together.

Ask her if she liked the way you kissed her, if she can imagine you kissing a slow trail of kisses down her neck all the way down…along her torso…

These types of questions will force your partner to visualize it all again, and continue to build up anticipation for your next “romantic moment” together.

Excitement & suspense are essential in building strong emotional & physical bonds.

That small text box on your phone may not seem huge, but there’s a whole lot of room for imagination in there. So, before you snap another “selfie”, give your message some thought and try visual texting your partner instead!


Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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