A vacation gets even better when you have a holiday romance. When a cute foreign girl starts flirting with you, it feels amazing (but you need the right texting tips). Your guard is down and so is hers. There is no tomorrow, so you’re both living for today.
Maybe you two get along so well that you kiss, hold hands – and maybe even sleep together.
It hardly matters that she doesn’t understand all of your jokes or comprehend every word you whisper in her ear. Her foreign accent drives you crazy and her little English mistakes and funny turns of phrase are incredibly cute.
But who knows how serious all of this will get? Can it last even if you’re both going to be heading your separate ways?
You Are In Control
It all depends on how you handle what happens next. If you exchange phone numbers and promise at the airport that you’ll keep texting her, there is a good chance that you’ll see her again…
But only if your texting game is spot on.
For all the will in the world, you’re never going to meet her again if you can’t retain her interest after the vacation is over. Frolicking in the sun is one thing, but giving her the same excitement via text is a different matter altogether.
It’s not easy.
What if you bore her?
What if you say all the wrong things?
Texting Tips: Do’s
If you’ve had a vacation fling and want to keep her interested now that you’ve returned home and can only stay in touch via text, follow these texting tips for texting a girl you met on vacation.
1. Remember That She’s Not A Native English Speaker
Sure, she speaks English, but it isn’t her first language. There might be a chance that composing lengthy texts demands a lot of effort on her part.
Keep things short and sweet, and respect that her command of the English language might not be at the same level as yours. Maybe even throw in a few phrases in her own native language – it shows you’re interested and willing to make an effort for her.
2. Ask Questions
You’re currently at the getting-to-know-her stage, which is the single most exciting stage in any relationship. And because you can’t meet up with her in person anytime soon to find out more about her, you may as well be a bit greedy with your questions.
Ask her about her family, her job and her passions. Ask her about her dreams (hint: this is a good phone topic as this kind of text exchange could get rather lengthy). Does she have ambitions to enter a different career? Does she want to live in another country?
3. Keep The Tone Light
There is no need to get super serious right now. Instead, keep the tone of your conversations light and humorous. Flirt with her, tease her and make jokes. Keep everything positive and entertain her.
A funny text from a guy a thousand or more miles away in the middle of the night will brighten up her day 100 times more than a somber text about how you’re sad she lives so far away.
4. Keep The Conversation Moving Forward
It’s okay for a conversation with your best friend from school to die because you know you’ll see them again at some point.
Similarly, if a text conversation dies with a girl you’re dating, it isn’t a massive deal because you can pop by her place with some tasty treats and warm kisses.
It’s a bit different with a girl you met on vacation, though. You’re hardly likely to see her again anytime soon, so the last thing you want is a dead conversation on your hands.
Make sure you keep it moving forward. If it dies because she hasn’t responded to your last text, don’t follow it up by asking if you annoyed her. Start a brand new thread on a new topic. Be positive and proactive.
Texting Tips: Don’t
So now that we have taken a look at some of the texting tips to keep the spark alive, here are some tips for things to avoid.
1. Don’t Pester Her To Visit You
Yes, it’s tempting to ask her to come and see you. After all, you want to see her again. You’ll show her around your city, introduce her to your friends and family. It’ll be fantastic.
But bothering her to visit you – especially if you keep mentioning it – will only put unwanted pressure on her shoulders. The trip might be expensive and inconvenient for her right now. It’s better to take your time in getting to know her first. Eventually, if things feel right, someone will suggest a meet-up.
2. Don’t Keep Mentioning The Distance
It’s not worth your while to keep asking her what she thinks of the distance between the two of you and whether you guys even have a future. She’s just as aware of the distance as you are. She doesn’t need you remind her of it.
Just play it cool and act as though you guys live in the same city. You’re having fun getting to know each other. There is no need to put a dampener on things by reminding her how much “it sucks that we live so far away from each other.”
She knows it sucks, but right now she’s just enjoying getting to know you.
3. Don’t Text Too Much
She met you on vacation and you have no idea what she’s like back in her hometown. She probably has lots of friends, and a full social schedule.
This is why it’s a good idea that you don’t come on too strong just yet – especially for your own sake.
Always remember that she was a vacation fling and not your girlfriend (at least not yet). Don’t fall into the trap of texting too much. It will annoy her, and it will also perturb you if she doesn’t reply for ages. It isn’t as though you can meet up in person for an explanation.
Keep it cool, and build it up slowly.
I hope these texting tips help you keep in touch with your vacation fling, and turn it into something even better!