Got a date? Looking to spice things up a bit with some playful banter before you meet, but not sure what to say? No worries, we've got you covered. Sending the perfect 'pre-date' texts can help project your confidence, and also build more physical chemistry even before you meet for that first, second, or 14th date. Turn up the heat for a better time when you finally come together in person.

In the days or hours before your date you have many golden opportunities to increase pre-date sexual tension with a little playful banter. Sincere compliments, and expressions of your anticipations about your date are great ways to let your lover know that you’re thinking of them—and not just emotionally.

For guys the trick is letting your woman know that you want her without sounding like a pig. Women, on the other hand, want to feel free to express their sexual attraction — without losing their mystique.

So, if you’re looking for a way to build some anticipation through playful banter without offending your date or blowing your chances of a date at all, read on.

For all of these you’ll need to strike the balance between overt sexuality and subtle hints. Use some of the following texts to excite your partner without scaring them off.

Playful Banter For First Date Texts

Extra caution must be used if you’re trying to create additional sexual tension before a first date. Keep things cool, respectful, and aloof before you meet up and get to know each other more.


“Had a great time talking to you last night. So glad I got your number!”
“Really excited to meeting up with you later : )”


“Let’s go back to my place after dinner…”
“Looking forward to it”

Letting your partner know that you’re looking forward to your date is a safe way to express your anticipation about physically meeting again. Just by letting them know that you’re excited you will help excite them as well.


“I’ve got so much planned for us to do tonight!”
“I’ve been thinking about meeting up all day”
“Wish I could leave work early to come meet up with you sooner”

Physical Beauty

Admiration of your date’s physical attributes can help telegraph your sexual interest. If done correctly these kinds of texts can help heat things up big time. Don’t go too far though—too much eagerness isn’t attractive.


“I could barely get your number down when we first met, you have such beautiful eyes”
“You looked really pretty in that dress last time, can’t wait to take you out again and show you off”


“I couldn’t stop staring at your body the last time we were together”

Winky Faces: The Swiss Army Knife Of Subtle Sexual Emoji

A well placed winky face can take an otherwise innocuous sentence and turn it into something that could be sexually charged. By using them sparingly you can enhance pretty much any text, and also get away with a little bit more than you could otherwise. They can’t make miracles happen though, so don’t get too bold.


“Want to cuddle after dinner tonight? ;)”
“You’ve been on my mind all day ;)”


“I’ve got clean sheets on my bed… ;)”

If You’ve Been Dating For A While

Consider the amount of time that you’ve been dating when you’re crafting the perfect pre-date text. If you’ve been on nine or ten dates you’re a lot safer getting more physically suggestive than if you’ve only been on two or three. Especially if you’ve already gotten to know each other physically.


“I could barely walk home after I kissed you goodnight last week”
“You’ve been on my mind all week ;)”
“Hope you’re ready for fun tonight ;)”

Playful banter in texts messages is a great way to create pre-date sexual tension. Be confident, but not too bold. Express your excitement without coming across as needy. Less is more here: don’t bombard someone with texts, instead try to create a sense of excitement of what is to come. If done correctly this technique will make the sparks fly when your date starts!


Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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