When one of my friends told me that he recently bought a book about texting, I just looked at him with surprise. I couldn’t believe that you could fill a whole book with something that was so easy. I mean, all you have to do is to type a few words in your smartphone and to press the send button. I thought that he was crazy.
One week later we met again and he told me about all the dates he had within the last seven days. I was flabbergasted. He showed me text conversations with girls he went on dates with and I honestly couldn’t believe how many kiss smileys they sent him.
That was the moment when I realized that texting is more than sending smileys and LMFAO. I realized that texting was an art and that someone who wanted to have an amazing dating life should have the goal to become an artist.
The question is:
How do you become one of the few people who are able to master the art of texting?
You Have To Study The Text Language
The first step is to understand the science behind good text messages. No university course will teach you how to attract the opposite sex via texting. You have to do your own research and if you want to become good at this you really have to study the text language.
Now you might ask yourself how the text language is different than the language we use in our regular conversations. Well, in case you are used to talk in a very detailed way by using long sentences, you will have a hard time making the woman of your dreams falling in love with you over the phone. If you, however, know how to say everything you want to say with three words and a smiley, you are good to go.
Your Texts Have To Trigger Emotions
While a regular conversation might have the goal to inform each other and to encourage a discussion, the art of texting has another goal.
The only goal of a text is to trigger emotions by using little to no words and the right emoticons.
It’s not about telling a story, it’s not about informing someone and it’s not about making a point. It’s all about emotions and if you are not able to trigger the right emotions, she won’t fall for you. You are like an artist who uses his painting to trigger emotions in his admirers.
You Need The Right Timing
The worst thing you can do is to send the wrong text message at the wrong time. Someone who has mastered this art knows that you should wait at least a few seconds to reply to a text. He also knows that you first have to establish a connection before you can close the deal with the final text message.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who have no timing at all. They ask a girl out before they triggered any emotions at all, or they send hundreds of funny text messages without ever transitioning to the real world.
You Have To Win Without Your Voice And Body Language
Let’s face the truth. Texting is fun and entertaining, but at the end of the day you want to go on a real date with her. Therefore, you have to convince her that you are the right guy for her and that meeting you in the real world is an experience she will enjoy.
The only problem is that it’s not so easy to convince someone through a couple of text messages that going out with you is a great experience. You can’t use your voice and you also can’t use your body language to attract her. You are on your own.
Only an artist can attract and convince a girl through a text message and without the help of his voice, tonality, gestures and his body language that he is the right one for her.
You Have To Practice Before You Reach Mastery
I once read an interesting article in which the author stated that it may take 10 years to master an art. Well, I don’t think that you need to practice texting for such a long time, but as it is with any other art, you need practice to see results.
You can’t expect to send your first text message to a woman and to get a response in which she begs you to take her on a date. It’s not that simple, otherwise it would be called calling. You have to put in the work to get to where you want to be.