Ready to scratch the surface of this hot topic? Words that turn guys on go way beyond little declarations of your own arousal, like the classic: “I’m so horny baby”. When you choose the right expressions, you instantly create a sexy mood for the evening, and ensure that your partner associates you with romance (and not chores). The key to being successful when venturing down this path is customizing your texts to fit your partner’s personality, and sexual preferences. Read on for tips on how you can pick the right approach for your guy!

Despite what you might think, finding the right trigger words that turn guys on are a little trickier than “Tonight let’s watch Sports center instead of the Bachelor.” OK, actually, that one might work. Pinpointing the right words that turn guys on requires finesse and a general understanding of what your man really likes. These trigger words, expressions, and sentiments might be outright flirty, or they could even be sneakily woven into a regular conversation. No matter what, remember what your intention is: arousal.

First You Need To Understand The Difference Between The Sexes

When it comes to romance, women love hearing words that solidify their partner’s commitment, while men might actually feel uncomfortable being showered with constant verbal reminders of their other half’s affection. So, what do guys like? Guys love to feel supported, treasured and lusted after.

What’s the moral of the story? Don’t be needy; instead, be flirty and fun. You can be nurturing (men are drawn to kind women), but don’t ever try to replace his mother. Read on for five strategies to make him hot.

1. Straight Forward Words That Turn Guys On

Compliment his body. Get flirty. Keep a mental laundry list on hand containing what YOU like, and what turns you on about your man. Whenever you want to set the sparks flying, pull it out and compliment something specific. After all, if the tables were turned, would you be able to resist an attractive man who compliments you?

Examples On How To Seduce Him:
Complimenting your boyfriend on something physical will make him putty in your hands, and get him where you want him – in your bed!

“Love your strong shoulders and feeling your hard biceps flex when you lift me up…”

“Seeing you in any shorts above-the-knee gives me the dirtiest thoughts.”

“You have such a hot body. I love knowing that I’m the only person who gets to see you without your clothes on.”

“You have the most intense “bedroom eyes”, they are so deep and sexy.”

2. Describe What You’re Wearing

This is a classic that’s been used by countless women. So why change a wining team? When you’re apart from your mate, texting him details about what you’re wearing will definitely get his blood pumping and keep you on his mind.

Provide your man with imagery that he won’t soon forget:

“Just trying on my new black lingerie. You know, the set with all the lace that you liked so much…”

“Way too hot outside for pants. Guess I’ll be wearing miniskirts all week long.”

Prove that you listen (and care):
Use all your ammo, and tease him with texts describing things that you know he likes. Does your boyfriend love to run his hands through your lovely locks and touch your shoulders when you’re wearing a sleeveless top? Has your crush ever complimented your legs when you wore a particularly short skirt? Use what you know he really likes.

“Remember those short-shorts you liked so much? I’m wearing them today.”

“Looking forward to our date tonight…decided to wear your favorite sun dress (the backless number).”

3. Words That Turn Guys On Play With The Idea Of Control

Playing with power, or role-playing, in your sex life can be an exhilarating experience (50 Shades of Grey wasn’t a hit for nothing). These texts don’t have to get outright dirty or risqué. Try to match your boyfriend’s preferences.

Hand over the reins and give him the power to control “intimate matters”:

“While I’m in the shower, pick out my underwear.”

“Tonight, you’re in control. Start planning.”

4. Cater To His Interests

Intellectually speaking, there’s nothing sexier than a girl who knows her boyfriend’s interests. Whether it’s preparing his favorite meal or surprising him with a gift, guys appreciate it when you show interest in their hobbies, interests, and passions. It highlights that you are a warm and sensual woman.

Spoil him rotten:
Everyone likes to be spoiled, so don’t be afraid to do nice, little things that would make him happy (easy – don’t do this all the time or he will become a spoiled brat! :).

“You hungry? Because your favorite pasta dish with the little cherry tomatoes and chunks of Parmesan is all ready!”

“Couldn’t help myself….just picked up a special jersey for you.”

“The Game of Thrones box set was half off. Ready to veg Sat night?”

“Pimp my ride baby (and other things) looking forward to the tuning show…”

5. Don’t Be Afraid To Use Sexual Terms Of Endearment

Bring your bedroom talk into every-day conversation. Along with instantly making you the center of his attention, this will give him a glimpse of what’s really on your mind. The truth is, men don’t forget the words you use while in bed. Everything you say is linked into his brain thanks to muscle memory. A few key words are all that stand between him making some coffee in the kitchen and a sudden flash of last night’s “activities”.

Make him feel like a stud:
Throw around words you’ve used to describe his sexual prowess.

“Lost count last night. You’re good ☺

“Every inch of you is so tasty. Yummy.”

Words That Turn Guys On And OFF Final Thoughts

When you’re trying to spark arousal, take caution. Every man’s love response has different levels of adventurousness. If you’re a kinkier person and have never slept with your partner, or have never had an in-depth conversation about sex before, sending a text that alludes to your extreme fetishes is a bad idea. After all, your kinks might be his biggest turn-offs. It’s safest to take his sexual temperature when you’re face-to-face.

Similarly, your TMI (too much information) message might cross a line, too. The man you’re trying to seduce doesn’t want to hear that you just spent your afternoon getting a facial wax, or that your pet has the stomach flu. Even if you personally consider these topics interesting, avoid them for now.

No matter what method you employ, remember: words that turn guys on the most will feel natural and comfortable for both of you. If you force it, he will feel it. Have fun!

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Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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  1. Hi

    Im Katelyn and I’m in a long distance relationship and Um when my bf starts getting kinky and all that I’m kinda lost because I’m a vergin and I’m afraid of turning him off is there anything any advice about this………and I’m sorry but everything I’ve read on this still doesn’t help because I’m no where close to him but we’ve been together for about a year and a half…….

    1. Hi Katelyn,
      Thanks for your message, I hope you are having a nice weekend. Don’t feel pressured to be all kinky with your boyfriend via text if you have not yet been intimate with him in real life…I would just write what feels natural to you…for example that you miss his kisses, his smile, holding his hand. Everyone has their own comfort level…and if he really loves you, he’ll respect yours.
      Sending you tons of positive energy xo
      P.S please reach out via email if I can be of more help: [email protected]

    1. Hi Renee,
      I would start with a compliment (guys love to feel appreciated :). It doesn’t have to be direct. It could be either something about his physical appearance, or his personality – just make sure that it is specific and genuine. Here’s an example: “Thinking of your strong arms wrapped around me…pulling me in close to your warm body :)”

  2. I have a guy friend that I really like. He constantly flirts with me in a very dirty manner and I go along with it. Recently while we were calling each other throught the phone and I used some of these tips for fun and he confessed he was a little horny. But I dont know if he meant it or if he was just playing around. I complimented him, and described what I was wearing, and I let him order me around. But I dont know he meant it, should I try it again or what? What do you suggest?

    1. Hi Alexis 🙂
      Hmmm, that’s a hard call to make. A lot depends on a few things – for example how he acts when you are together in person. Is he also flirty? Does he give more attention to you than the other girls? Also do you think he wants a girlfriend? Or, do you think he just wants to have fun? And of course – what do you want? I would think about all of those things before getting too sexual with him…

  3. How do I make sure its the right time to have sex with my boyfriend when he never gives me any hints as to whether or not he’s horny?

    1. Hey Kateleen,
      Guys are usually pretty good at letting girls know if they are “in the mood” – so don’t stress too much about it. If you feel like kissing him, kiss him. Be natural and enjoy each other.

      1. Hey I have this guy friend he is crushing on me saying that he love naughty gals and ,am the kind of gal.we normally chat naughty stuff like seriously but yesterday i was so naughty for him like seriously he was so horny yesterday he can’t control it he had to call me I should cool him down saying that we should have s*x on the phone,I was surprised I couldn’t do it for him like he was piss off.the guy is caring, loving, loyal etc but am not ready for dating for now.what should I do?like he is so much into me

        1. Hey there,
          Don’t ever feel pressured to do something you aren’t ready to do, or don’t feel comfortable doing. If he is all those things – caring, loving, loyal, etc. he will wait for you. Always stay true to yourself.

  4. Hii i know its not relvent I have been with my bf for 3years and I haven’t seen him for a week and his kinda upset I’m going to see him over the week end how do I make it up to him

    1. Hey Sumaya,
      I’m sorry for the delay, I hope it went OK with your boyfriend…was he upset because you were busy? Or was he upset because you didn’t make him a priority? If you feel like you did something wrong, you can always make him something he likes (like his favorite dessert) and plan a romantic evening in for two 🙂
      Bisous x

    1. Hi Adelina,
      Take your time building up the sexual tension. Send him flirty text messages telling him what you would like to do to/with him when you are finally together…”I want to…” “Imagining…”
      Bisous x

  5. Hey
    This guys wants a thing but i don’t know how to react what should I do? He is really nice but I’m scared of commitment.

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