My Top Dating Tips For Women Looking For Love
After working as a professional matchmaker, coaching clients around the world and personally dating my fair share of guys, I’ve decided to share my top 5 dating tips for women.
I’ve dated Italian men, French men, American men, tall men, short men, sporty men, intellectual men and boys who were trying to be men. Somewhere along the way, I discovered these tried and tested dating tips for women that I’d like to share with all the other ladies out there looking for love.
1. Accept Responsibility
What does this mean? It means that you can date whomever you want, even a super jerk. This may not be standard dating tips for women, but it’s something I truly believe.
Yes, you can date the guy who has cheated on every woman he ever met (done it).
You can also date that super cute guy who’s just exiting a long-term relationship (yep, been there too).
However, there are a few things you need to keep in mind:
- You must accept the risk of being cheated on, or becoming the rebound girl.
- Only spend a short, specific amount of time with this type of guy before moving on. This is mission critical, or you could wake up 10 years later with tons of regrets.
- Make sure that you learn something from each one of these “experiences” – either about yourself or about life – thanks to his fresh perspective.
How does this apply to your texting game? If you know that you are barking up the wrong tree, try and keep your text conversations light and full of harmless flirting. Steer clear of sweet romantic messages that have a tendency of creating feelings of attachment.
Example: “There is only one thing I like better than a big ice cream cone on a warm summer day. Any guesses?”
2. Know What You REALLY Want
It took me a long time (and a lot of failed attempts) to figure out what was important for me in a relationship. I thought my dream guy had to be sporty, super smart, or extremely cultured. I was wrong. All I needed was someone who knew how to laugh, have fun, live with purpose and enjoy the simple pleasures in life. My new ideal guy: Someone who wants to dance around the living room naked on a Saturday afternoon. Most articles on dating tips for women probably won’t tell you this, but a guy who truly knows how to have fun is just as sexy as a gym rat with a 6 pack abs or a millionaire with a beach house.
Take some time to think about past partners and what you liked or disliked. Figure out your own deal breakers and stick to them. Then, ask a lot of questions (in a playful way). Just be careful to avoid making your partner feel like he is being interviewed for a job.
Example: “Red or white? Crunchy or creamy? Regular or light? So many things left to discover…”
3. Don’t Chase Guys
If there is only one dating tip for women that you remember, it’s this: if a guy wants to be with you, he will do whatever it takes. Guys are very good at going after what they want. On the flip side, if he isn’t interested in you, he won’t make the effort…and in that case, do you really want him?
Don’t send your partner more messages than he sends you. If you see that he is taking more time than usual to answer your text messages, do the same. Don’t ever ask by text “what’s wrong” or tell him “we need to talk”. Use text for flirting and making plans, always speak about issues or feelings face to face. Make your messages a treat!
Example: “Wait until you see my outfit…bet you can’t keep your hands to yourself.”
4. Positive Vibes
Always go into a relationship with an open mind and a clear conscience. The more negative thoughts you entertain, the more likely these thoughts are going to become reality. You can call it the power of attraction, being superstitious, or anything you want, but it’s true. What you think about most often becomes reality.
Listen to a happy song, look at a cute photo or go for a walk before texting if you are feeling depressed. Small tweaks can turn a negative message into something he will enjoy receiving.
Example: ”It’s an absolutely gorgeous day…just missing you.”
5. Don’t Listen To Everyone
Most people are stuck in crummy relationships. In their miserable state, they are overjoyed to hear stories about how much your partner sucks because misery LOVES company. So don’t be upset if your girlfriends aren’t over the moon when you do finally find a gem. Chat with your friends during happy hour, but take their advice with a grain of salt: they might (subconsciously) want to sabotage your happiness.
Men love to feel supported and coveted by their partner. From time to time show him that you are behind him 100%. Did he try ordering dinner in a foreign language during your last vacation together? Instead of making fun of his accent, tell him how attractive it was.
Example: “Your German accent is adorable… why don’t you bring it on over along with your sexy little self? ☺”
Keep Him Interested By Being Interesting!
And there you have it – 5 dating tips for women who want to be more successful. What’s the best way to keep him interested after you found him? Have fun and set yourself apart from the rest of the ladies by sending him flirty, sexy and sweet text messages. Remember, it’s not only your little black dress that has the power to seduce…