It’s the point of no return. That one bad decision you made that led to a negative downwards spiral. Looking back at that point, you will be able to trace it directly to the negative repercussions that followed:
– You hit send and you lost a friend.
– You ordered dessert, leading to a 6-day binge-fest.
– You tipped back that last gin and spent the next day at work tipping back aspirin.
That one darn point – it’s so small, but so significant.
So, how do to get past that point in style, knowing that you owned that decision – it didn’t own you?
Visualization works like a charm for me. A picture paints a thousand words, and if those thousand words are telling you exactly what’s wrong with your decision, you need to listen up. Own the decision that serves you best, and stop making bad judgments when faced with that split second moment that changes everything.
So how do you use visualization?
Visualization For Decision-Making
When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach and you know you’re about to do something you shouldn’t do, just stop. Stop right at the point of a difficult choice, and imagine both outcomes.
For example: the texting dilemma. You’re about to write something nasty and childish to a friend over text. It’s what you truly feel right now, but once you send it, it can’t be unsent. Stop before you press send, and imagine the look on that person’s face when they read your text. Is it a look of pain? Disgust? Annoyance?
Maybe that’s exactly how you want them to feel (right now), but take your visualization a bit further – are you going to run into them anytime soon? How do you see it going down? Will you be embarrassed? Sad? Regretful? Maybe you’ll have to apologize for you immature behavior in front of mutual friends – how embarrassing.
It’s a pretty clear picture isn’t it? Think about it, then decide whether to press send, or delete.
Use the same method with that dessert order, or saying yes to the last drink: in two weeks time do you want to be at the beach flaunting your sexy body or covering up with your towel? Waive that waiter away.
Do you want to sit through that meeting tomorrow with a hangover and a pocket full of aspirin, or would you rather turn up early, be prepared, and impress your boss? Say no, hail that taxi, and leave early with style.
Sometimes your visualization might lead you to saying yes. If you’re in a dead-end friendship with a negative energy vampire, say yes and send that zinger.
If you’ve been dieting like an Olympic athlete maybe you DESERVE that damn cheesecake. And if you just got a promotion and the hangover will be worth the celebration, say “heck yes” to that last drink!
Only you, and your minds eye know the answer. As long as you can picture both outcomes and you’re fully informed about your decision, you’ll have no regrets. Always text with care, and own that split second that makes all the difference…Make visualization your new best friend.