If there’s one thing that you guys all want to know, it’s this: how to tell if a girl likes you.
Men aren’t always great at reading signs. But it’s not your fault, sometimes woman are really hard to read, and trying to decipher “chick vibes” can leave you completely confused and totally lost.
But it’s really not that complicated. With most women, there will be certain things that she does, words that she says, and texts that she sends that are her way of sending a clear “green means go” message to you.
So if you’re really into her, here are 12 signs you need to look out for if you want to take it to the next level. And don’t worry if she’s not doing ALL 12 of them, 3 or 4 of them is probably enough to know she’s into you, and it’s time to make your move!
How To Tell If A Girl Likes You Or Not
1. She Answers Your Texts
If you’re texting a girl and she answer straight away, or within a couple of minutes, she’s probably into you. Girls will only answer texts quickly once or twice if they don’t like you, so if you’re getting rapid responses, those quick texts are pretty strong signs she digs you.
2. She Holds Eye Contact
When you talk with her, does she look you in the eye? Better yet, does she look you in the eye and then look away when she realizes she’s been staring at you for too long? She definitely has feelings for you. Eye contact is a great way to detect flirty vibes, especially if she seems super conscious about it. People don’t hold eye contact with people they don’t find interesting, and if she is being self-conscious about how much she stares at you, it means she’s fully aware that she can’t look away.
3. She Texts You, Just Because
Wondering how to know if a girl likes you over text? Check the content of her messages. Is she only messaging when she wants something, or just to answer your texts, or does she message you, “just because”? If you start receiving texts from her asking how your day was, or telling a cute story about why she thought of you that day, you can be fairly sure that she is interested.
For example, “Do you have a iron I can borrow”, is not particularly flirtatious, but “I was on the train today with a guy who totally reminded me of you!” is definitely her way of letting you know you’ve invaded her thoughts.
4. She Wants To Hear Your Voice
If she isn’t happy just texting you to ask about your day but wants you to give her a call, things are looking good for you my friend.
“Give me a call later? Would love to chat ☺ x”, is her way of saying she’s wants your voice down the line, rather than just a few texts. Someone’s voice over the phone can be a serious turn-on…just saying.
5. She Makes Accidental Body Contact
Whether it’s brushing against you when she walks, picking a leaf out of your hair, or even just resting her hand on your shoulder as she laughs at your jokes – if she’s going out of her way to make body contact with you, it means she wants more. One of the best ways to flirt is to feel each other’s body heat, with no words at all – and she knows that.
One of the biggest signs of attraction is that she’s makes any excuse to touch you.
6. She Asks You Obvious Questions
Have you suddenly become the new Google for a certain girl over the last couple of weeks? If she is texting you questions, or giving you a call to check details on things that she could just as easily Google, or even might know herself, then she is searching for excuses to talk to you.
This is especially true if her question starts of a whole series of text conversations that have absolutely NOTHING to do with the original question. If she is interested in you, any excuse will do to start a conversation.
7. Her Texts Are Never Visually Boring
Are the messages that she sends you packed with smiley faces and X’s, and look visually appealing? Visual stimulation is important for girls, and texts are any easy way to do this. If your inbox is flooded with cute looking messages and a whole array of smiley faces and stickers, she might be trying to capture your attention. Hearts and kisses might not be your thing, but us chicks, we LOVE them.
8. She Makes Up A Pet Name For You
If you have been reading my articles for a while, you know I am BIG into names! I love it when guys text my name…or make up cute little names for me. I’m smitten. So if she suddenly starts calling you by a pet name, or nickname, she is trying to claim you as her own, while also being a little flirty.
Pet names are an easy way for couples to have an inside joke. Maybe she calls you Elvis because she caught you singing in the car once, or perhaps you cook a mean pasta sauce and she starts addressing you as her “chef”. Pet names are her way of including you, while excluding everyone else.
9. She Mimics You
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, it’s true, and if she’s into you, she may not even realize she is doing it. How to know if a girl likes you? Watch her movements. Does she copy what you say when she talks to you? Or, does she start adding your idioms into her conversations? Or, even develops an interest in the kind of movies or music that you like? It is called parroting by some communication experts, and it’s a great way to build connection with someone (so she is a smart cookie for doing this). If she can suddenly quote lines from Fast and Furious 9 , when she never seemed that into cars, she is subconsciously trying to flatter you with imitation.
10. She Teases You
Little boys tease little girls by pulling their hair at the playground, but it doesn’t stop there. Adults tease too (or at least they should!). Want to know how to tell if a girl likes you? Observe whether she teases you, and how she does it. A girl who isn’t that into you either won’t tease you at all, or will go the other way and be plain mean (in which case you should avoid her – mean people suck!).
A girl who is interested in you will tease you every chance she gets, but never about anything hurtful. Better yet, if she teases you then pretends to be sorry and builds you back up again, she is totally smitten: she’s using teasing as a way to compliment every single thing she likes about you.
For example, if she told you that she would carry her own bag up the steps (after you gallantly offered to help…) and she refused by saying you weren’t strong enough to carry it and then when you seemed hurt she added: “Awww, I was only joking, I know you’re strong: how could you not be with biceps like that?” It means that she has obviously been eyeing your body, but she doesn’t want to make it tooooo obvious that she likes what she sees.
11. She Asks You About Other Chicks
Women do this a lot when they are interested, but they are still sussing out how you feel about them. If she starts making casual comments about other girls’ appearances, or how amazing they are, she’s trying to work out what you’re attracted to, which means she’s attracted to you.
The best way to deal with this is by double complimenting: agree that one girl is beautiful, but add in that she has nothing on your smile, or that you prefer blue eyes. Try:
“Yeah she is gorgeous, but I prefer brunettes myself“, or vice versa. This way you come off as a nice guy, while also putting the girl you like first.
12. She Tells You She Likes You
This may seem obvious, but if a girl straight out tells you that she is interested in you than she is either an awesome girl who doesn’t play games, or she has been sending you the 11 other signals for aaaaages and she is sick of waiting around for you to notice. If she comes straight out and says she likes you, take her at her word; it takes a lot of bravery to do that!
So there you are, the 12 different signs you should keep an eye open for! But just remember, every woman is different, and so is their approach. If you’re still unsure, try matching up her behavior with some of the signs, and if she’s doing more than 3, chances are, she is attracted to you – if she’s doing all 12, congratulations, that girl is yours (at least for now!)
So, stop Googling how to tell if a girl likes you and go out there and get that girl!