I’m going to share a personal story with you. Normally I am a very positive person with a ton of positive energy. I hold my head high, laugh a lot (often at the little things – or even myself).
When someone is talking, I look them in the eyes, and when I walk, I stand tall, smile at strangers, say hi to almost everyone I meet and try to show appreciation for anything and everything that has brightened my day. End result? People treat me in the same way.
Positive Energy Is Powerful Stuff
I never really appreciated how powerful this positive, warm, enthusiastic, playful vibe was until I lost it. I went through a brutal few months. Very, very hard. Like “crawling under the covers to block out the world” kind of hard.
I was mustering up all the strength I had just to survive, to function. I didn’t have energy for giggling. The bounce in my walk went flat, and my eyes were dull, not shiny. There was no more smiling at strangers in the street.
No hello.
Chit chat? Nah. I completely blocked out the world with my headphones
As I closed myself off and ignored the world around me, I couldn’t believe how my life changed.
So What Happened?
People weren’t drawn to me. The cute guys didn’t flirt with me; strangers didn’t look for a way to chat with me – it was like I was a different person.
Physically I hadn’t changed anything; I wasn’t unkempt, uglier, or dressed poorly…
Which made me think back to something we are told time and time again – “perfect our physical appearance”.
But you know what? The thing that changed my life the most was when I lost my shine and easy-going smile. These are the things that show.
What Can You Do?
So, if you’re looking for that next fad to help you get ahead, don’t. If dieting makes you miserable, work on your health, your well-being and your happiness. Do you want to find a life partner? Start dating with purpose.
If you spend your days trying to determine who the prettiest person in the room is, remember that winding yourself up about it won’t make you more beautiful. A resting bitch-face is not attractive. Sorry.
How To Harness Positive Energy In 4 Simple Steps
If you want to go from a 6 to an 10, here are 4 easy things you can do to increase your positive energy.
1. Smile
It sounds simple, but smiling really is the first step. Greeting the world with a friendly face brings that friendliness out of other people and directs it right back to you.
Some people say that the more you smile, the happier you will feel.
The adage, “fake it ‘til you make it” really does seem to work. Show the world you’re happy to be here and the world will be happy to meet you.
2. Hold Your Head Up and Walk With Purpose
Walking with your head down not only prevents you from meeting the world on your own terms, it also makes you look like a victim.
Not to mention, you can’t see where you’re going! Instead, walk with confidence and people will automatically give you respect. Act like a winner, and you’ll be seen as a winner.
3. Make Eye Contact
When you meet someone on the street, or when you’re talking to someone, make eye contact. It’s a form of direct sincerity, and when you look into someone’s eyes, a connection is made.
You show that you see the person you’re talking to as just that, a person, and that they have value. You’re meeting them as an equal, and people love to be respected.
4. Stop Making Comparisons
You’ll never give off a positive vibe if you continue thinking that everyone else has more to offer the world than you do. Stop worrying about who is richer, smarter, or prettier.
Work on your spark. When you appreciate others and all that you are, you can have everything you ever dreamed of.
What you give, comes back…like a boomerang.
I lost that spark, and that changed a lot of things.
Take it from me – positive energy will get you noticed, so don’t airbrush your faults.
Have enthusiasm and see where it takes you.
