Congrats! You got her number. But what next? When it comes to dating advice, it all starts now...

You need to pay attention to what to text a woman you just met, because if you text her the wrong thing you might end a budding relationship before it even begins.

Ask any guy who’s been in this position before, and he’ll tell you what it’s like. Right now, the situation could go either way. If you get this right and text her what she wants to hear, you’re well on your way to the next base. Mess this up, and all the hard work you put into getting her number will be for nothing.

So saddle up for some dating advice as we take a look at what to text a woman you just met.

1. A simple hello

Cardinal rule number one for what to text a woman you just met is that you must keep things simple. This means absolutely no:

– Over thinking
– Weirdness

Just a simple and friendly “Hey Lisa, loved our chat yesterday! how’s everything going in your neck of the woods?” can suffice. It’s a totally normal text to send, and invites her to start chatting with an open-ended question.

This is a safe text that’s totally bulletproof. There is no way she can’t not respond. She might respond later in the day if she’s busy, but she will get back to you. And then it’s up to you to make sure you keep her interested.

2. A follow up text on something she told you

There will have been something you guys talked about when you first met. And this something is what you can use to initiate a proper texting conversation with her.

For example, let’s say she told you that she wants to go back to school to study something she is passionate about. You can take an interest in her by asking her a question related to her plans:

“You mentioned that you wanted to pursue your masters in education. Have you applied to any schools yet?”


“How was the spin marathon on Saturday? Still recovering?”


“You mentioned a great white from Oregon. What was the name again? Thought my mom might like it for her birthday.”

You don’t want to be too heavy with what you ask her, but a girl will appreciate you taking an interest in her. Just try to keep the questions to a minimum, and try to keep things as light as possible. Asking her something like “what are your ultimate career plans?” is far too heavy, and she might be put off.

You barely know her – don’t probe, don’t put her on the spot, and don’t induce an existential crisis in her. That can come later!

3. Something that makes her laugh

Next on our list of what to text a woman you just met is humor. More than anything else, you MUST be funny.

Texting is meant to be lighthearted and positive, and it’s way easier to hold a girl’s attention when you can make her laugh.

Girls love funny guys. The more you can make her laugh, the hotter she’ll be for texting.

Even better, if you can be funny when asking her out, she’ll be 100% more inclined to say yes. Example:

“Want to do something this weekend? I was thinking something nice and chilled. Either tea and crumpets – or tequila shots and karaoke.”


“So, I have a confession to make…I love pineapple on my pizza. Is that a deal breaker for you?”

4. A heartfelt compliment

If you are still not sure what to text a woman you just met, go for a sincere compliment. She gave you her number. But she might not be all that sure that you even dig her.

The best way to show her that you’re interested and make her feel good at the same time is to compliment her via text.

“I loved your outfit last night, you’ve got great style.”

“You were the girl that caught my eye straight away…but you must get that all the time :)”

5. A subtle invitation for a date

Remember that in the beginning, texting is simply a means to a bigger goal. Yes, you’re using texting to get to know her, but the end goal is a date. You need to move toward clinching a date as soon as possible. Otherwise, she’ll assume you want a pen pal, and she’ll probably lose interest.

Don’t waste too much time before you ask her out. However, it’s a good idea to do it subtly. Here are ways you can nudge her toward a date:

“Got any plans this weekend? I’ve got a fun idea for Saturday…”

“The new (insert name) movie is out this weekend. Have you seen it?”

“You mentioned you follow the Mediterranean diet. Have you tried that new Greek restaurant that recently opened?”

There you go!  5 tips on what to text a woman you just met. For more texting advice, take a spin around our blog!

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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