Are you always the one to press send; your text messages just hanging out there, unanswered?
Not fun, huh? You’re probably starting to wonder what in the heck you must be doing wrong. Well, it sounds like you’re stuck in a bit of a texting rut!
The good news is that it’s nothing that can’t be cured with a little self-awareness. But as our mothers used to say “actions become habits,” and while you may have previously interpreted that nugget of wisdom as only pertaining to character, your small, daily actions determine the results of almost everything you do! And that most definitely includes communication with a romantic interest, especially texting!.
“Re-Looking” For Your Text Messages
Let’s look at this way: Take for example the sensitive topic of gaining weight. Most people don’t become fat overnight, because the majority of the population doesn’t eat three pounds of M&M’s in one sitting. So what destroys your girlish figure? It’s the little, habitual treats like buying a pack of M&M’s from the vending machine at work…every single day.
How does this apply to texting? You can become a star by incorporating small changes into your text game that make your text messages just a tad bit more interesting than the average Joe’s. Just remember: you need to do it every time you send a text message. Making effective change isn’t something you can slack off on.
Better Text Messages in 5 Simple Steps
Sound like a lot of work, huh? Luckily it isn’t as much as you might expect. So, how can you do this with the least amount of effort?
-Say hello plus their name. Most people forgo this important step. The little word hello instantly changes the tone of text messages and sets the stage for success.
– Be positive! People can easily feel negative vibes in text messages. So, if your boss just yelled at you, wait until you are over it to write something cute to your partner, or your text will bomb.
Ask questions. Questions make it hard for your partner NOT to respond.
Why are questions so powerful? Because we are all programmed to answer them, whether we want to or not!
– Be unpredictable. Never allow yourself to fall into the habit of crafting the same type of text messages. Sending “I miss you so much” at the same time every day is a sure fire way to get yourself ignored.
-Don’t over text. Mix up texting with phone calls, emails, voice messages (I love sending these on what’s app) and photos. Sending text messages should be one element of your communication strategy, not the entire game plan.
So there you have it: five simple changes that can drag your flirting routine out of the gutter, brush it off, and give your text messages a fresh shot at coming out on top.