Have you ever pressed the send button on your cell phone only to be met with the feeling that you have messed up royally? Well chances are you did - if you broke one of these 10 texting rules! Most of the major texting mishaps can be avoided. So, put down your drink, think of something positive, and read on!

Recently I had an interesting conversation about personal happiness with a holistic doctor. So, what does this have to do with texting rules? A lot! He told me that many of his patients knocked on his door with the unrealistic expectation of finding a quick and dirty one-time solution to finding happiness. He was mystified that they didn’t understand the “nature of the beast”. Happiness is a moving target, something you must constantly strive to achieve.

Work It

The same is true with modern communication. If you want to excel at it, you need to keep working on your game. Most people aren’t born expert communicators, and even those who are excellent talkers experience a slump from time to time.

Mastering modern communication requires continuously generating creative message ideas, changing up your communication channels (texting, email, phone, instant messages, photos, videos and voice messages), and respecting certain guidelines.

Age-Old Advice

Yep, even though you should shake things up, and let your creative juices flow, there are some age-old texting rules that you need to respect. Breaking them means almost certain failure.

So, what are the texting rules? You probably already know them, but here is a quick refresher course:

Top 10 Texting Rules:

1. Don’t text drunk

This is a biggie. Avoid drunk texting unless you’re indifferent about the person you are texting, and you are okay with the possibility of losing them.

2. Put your phone down when you’re too tired to be engaging

We all have busy schedules filled with late night/early morning obligations. For many, feeling tired is a way of life. Be careful not to make a habit out of texting when you’re too tired to write something interesting. If you really have to send the text, at least start with the recipient’s name and end with a sweet “au revoir”.

3. Stop yourself from pressing send when you’re angry

Avoid texting when you are feeling negative, you’re sure to regret it.

4. Egocentric is never sexy – don’t be self-absorbed

Whenever possible maneuver the conversation so it’s geared towards the recipient, their life and their interests, not you.

5. Keep your texts short and sweet

Don’t text a play by play of your entire day – choose one of the other modern communication mediums if you have a lot to say (for example email – or pick up the phone). Keep your texts short.

6. Avoid spamming

Besides making you look like a psycho, it’s super annoying to hear your phone bleep out 50 alerts (unless it’s on vibrate, which might be rather pleasant ☺).

7. Never send needy texts

Never ask your partner “Why don’t you write me back?” It is a huge passion killer. Play it cool and be patient. Never freak out if they don’t write back in one nano second.

8. Bin any aggressive or passive aggressive messages

The same thing goes for sending “We need to talk” text messages to some poor guy or gal. Don’t text that ever. It is a mean text message that is sure to ruin the recipient’s day. Instead, ask them if they would be available to meet you at a specific time, and spill the beans then.

9. Stay clear of being vulgar
Watch the nudity and realize that any photo you send is going to be shared with multiple people (think mom, or grandma…).If you only remember one of these texting rules, remember this one (or Thanksgiving dinner could be very, very awkward!)

10. Never be careless with your texts – take time to re-read them and confirm recipient
Choose wisely – once you hit send you can’t take it back, so make sure you have chosen the right recipient.

There you have it, 10 texting rules to abide by EVERY time you send a text message.

Have you ever broken these texting rules? What happened? Tell us about in the comments below.

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Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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    1. Anyway, for #9 the book is almost always better than the movie, right? 🙂

      Totally agree with you regarding length – keep it short! Great example from your 4 rules of texting article:

      “NO: Hey I had a really good time on our date. How funny was it that the waiter spilled water all over that girl? Lol, well anyways, we should definitely do that again sometime. I know of this really cool sushi place over on ___st., but if you don’t like sushi, we can totally go somewhere else………..

      YES:Drinks later?”

  1. About 3 years ago, I got angry with a lady on the phone, and sent her a vulgar reply. Not only did she ignore me after that, I suspect she used me. That was a lesson learned.

    1. Hi there,
      I’m sorry to hear that…it’s easy to let our emotions get out of control via text and then regret what we’ve sent. I hope you find someone else special soon.
      Sending tons of positive energy your way.

      1. Thanks for the reply. And I found a lady on Facebook. We just started talking last Thursday. Her texts seem to indicate that she does indeed like me. She also sends me FB stickers.

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