Recently I had an interesting conversation about personal happiness with a holistic doctor. So, what does this have to do with texting rules? A lot! He told me that many of his patients knocked on his door with the unrealistic expectation of finding a quick and dirty one-time solution to finding happiness. He was mystified that they didn’t understand the “nature of the beast”. Happiness is a moving target, something you must constantly strive to achieve.
The same is true with modern communication. If you want to excel at it, you need to keep working on your game. Most people aren’t born expert communicators, and even those who are excellent talkers experience a slump from time to time.
Mastering modern communication requires continuously generating creative message ideas, changing up your communication channels (texting, email, phone, instant messages, photos, videos and voice messages), and respecting certain guidelines.
Yep, even though you should shake things up, and let your creative juices flow, there are some age-old texting rules that you need to respect. Breaking them means almost certain failure.
So, what are the texting rules? You probably already know them, but here is a quick refresher course:
Top 10 Texting Rules (Don’t Be):
This is a biggie. Avoid drunk texting unless you’re indifferent about the person you are texting, and you are okay with the possibility of losing them.
2. Too tired
We all have busy schedules filled with late night/early morning obligations. For many, feeling tired is a way of life. Be careful not to make a habit out of texting when you’re too tired to write something interesting. If you really have to send the text, at least start with the recipient’s name and end with a sweet “au revoir”.
Avoid texting when you are feeling negative, you’re sure to regret it.
Whenever possible maneuver the conversation so it’s geared towards the recipient, their life and their interests, not you.
5. A blowhard
Don’t text a play by play of your entire day – choose one of the other modern communication mediums if you have a lot to say (for example email – or pick up the phone). Keep your texts short.
6. A spammer
Besides making you look like a psycho, it’s super annoying to hear your phone bleep out 50 alerts (unless it’s on vibrate, which might be rather pleasant ☺).
Never ask your partner “Why don’t you write me back?” It is a huge passion killer. Play it cool and be patient. Never freak out if they don’t write back in one nano second.
8. A jerk
The same thing goes for sending “We need to talk” text messages to some poor guy or gal. Don’t text that ever. It is a mean text message that is sure to ruin the recipient’s day. Instead, ask them if they would be available to meet you at a specific time, and spill the beans then.
Watch the nudity and realize that any photo you send is going to be shared with multiple people (think mom, or grandma…).If you only remember one of these texting rules, remember this one (or Thanksgiving dinner could be very, very awkward!)
Choose wisely – once you hit send you can’t take it back, so make sure you have chosen the right recipient.
There you have it, 10 texting rules to abide by EVERY time you send a text message.
Have you ever broken these texting rules? What happened? Tell us about in the comments below.