Ok great, but what to text a guy you like? Well, you can flirt with him, banter with him, tease him and find out cool stuff about him…
However, if you go about it incorrectly, you can also shoot yourself in the foot.
To make matters worse, he’s got other options. In a world of online dating, it’s more important than ever that you keep his attention via text and make sure you’re the name he wants to see when his phone pings.
How to do this?! Let’s take a look at what to text a guy you like.
1. Something Visual
Have you literally talked about every common topic and are scratching your head wondering where to go next?
If the conversation is at a high, now is probably a great time to sign off. But before you do that, send him a video, link to an article, meme, etc. or a cute photo of fabulous you, living your best life.
It doesn’t have to be a selfie, or something overly flirty. It could be a shot from the beach (your toes in the sand, gorgeous sunset, you rocking a floppy hat and movie star shades, etc). If you are both gym rats, it could be a workout summary photo of your intense session, your cute new gym gear or a short video of you in action. And for the foodies? The options are limitless…
If you’re at a point in your relationship where you feel comfortable sending something a little bit flirtier…think lingerie, new heels, a fresh manicure, bubble baths…whatever turns him on. Give him a tease, but make him wait for the full experience 🙂
Just make sure the follow-up text gives context to what you sent – and why you sent it. Keep it short, and also let him know you are leaving the convo.
2. Confident Replies
Did he just ask you what you would like to do on a date? Show some creativity and confidence. Instead of replying “I don’t care, whatever you want to do” Have a few fun ideas up your sleeve.
“I’ve been craving pizza. Want to try the new pizza joint that just opened up downtown?”
“I have a great idea….I know you love trekking and I just discovered a cool new hiking trail. Want to go for a short hike and picnic?”
When you are confident and take the initiative, it takes some of the pressure off him. Basically, he doesn’t feel like he needs to be in charge of everything. Confidence is sexy in guys and also in women.
Other ways you can show confidence? Be honest with your preferences. If you hate Chinese food, tell him upfront. If you are a Lakers fan and he prefers the Bucks, don’t pretend to like his team just to appease him.
Confidently show him who you are and what you like, one text at a time.
3. Questions
In texting it might feel normal for a guy to lead and ask all the questions. But guess what? Guys love it when girls aren’t so passive and fire off a few of their own.
Asking questions shows that you’re really interested in getting to know him. It also gives you a better chance of creating a connection.
Don’t make it feel like a job interview, or that you are digging for super personal information. Instead, focus on finding out what makes him tick – slowly. For example:
“What’s one place you’ve always wanted to go?”
“Do you have a bucket list?”
“When’s the last time you laughed out loud?”
The key is to keep the questions positive, easy to answer and not overdo it.
What To Text A Guy You Like? Hint: Not This
If it’s been a while since he texted and you really can’t cope without hearing from him, send him a follow-up, non-committal text that’s totally unrelated to the last one.
If you ever get the feeling that your text exchange with a guy is escalating into drama, make an excuse and leave.
Say something along the lines of, “Oh, my friend is here now. Let’s chat later.”
Keep It Drama – Free
Over the years, I’ve found that girls are hotter for texting than guys. Guys will text, of course, but they take longer to respond than we do.
If a guy hasn’t responded for over an hour, relax. Chill. Don’t go for the machine gun text, where you barrage him with follow-up texts. It will annoy him and make you look needy.
Avoid asking where he is and never say things like “LOL it’ll be Christmas before you reply” or “Night then.”
It makes you look bitter. Don’t try to be funny and sarcastic.
Discuss Issues IRL
Text fighting is the worst, especially if it’s with a guy you like and you haven’t even met yet! It sours the whole relationship and could frighten him off. You’ll have him wondering “If it’s this easy to get into a fight with you via text, how easy will it be to get into a fight with you in real life?” It’s probably a headache he can do without.
Make sure you keep things positive. Try your best not to create drama. If you sense drama is arising, get out of there. If it’s too late, make light of the situation, crack a joke, poke fun at yourself and move on.
Make it your aim to be his go-to girl for zero drama.
Voila! what to text a guy you like. Remember to give him space, be confident at all times, avoid drama and negativity and ask him questions. You’ll have him coming back for more.
