If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you don’t need me to tell you how difficult it is. You know how tough it is. But precisely because the lows are so insanely low, the highs you experience are unbelievably high. And it’s these highs that make us want to persevere with long-distance romances. They make it totally worth it. Is there a better thrill than meeting up with your partner after so much time apart?!

So, you’ve made the decision to keep going with your long distance relationship. Great news! modern communication tools can help keep the relationship candle burning bright.

I love texting my partner whenever he’s away for long spells – it helps me feel closer to my partner.

Sure, it’s not the same as having them next to us, but it helps to keep the relationship going in the right direction.

Ready to learn how to send text messages that are exciting and get answered? 

If you’re new to a long distance relationship and aren’t so sure what to text your partner, let’s take a look at 21 text ideas!

1. The I miss you text

I’m sure you’ve already told them that you miss them via text.

“I miss you.”

But have you let them know that you really miss them?

Don’t be afraid to be specific. Let them know that you miss their voice, their body, their smile. Let them know you miss their morning face, or the way they always burn dinner! Be cute, be funny. Go for details.

“Missing the smell of your hair on my pillow. Counting down the days until we’re back in this bed together.”

2. The caring text

“Tell me about your day …”

When it comes to texting in a long distance relationship, it’s really important that you don’t get caught up in the trap of making it all about you. Remember to make it about them, too. Ask them how their day went, invite them to tell you a story. Remember, texting is a conversation.

3. The everything reminds me of you text…

“Just burned my toast. It reminded me of you.”

Aww, I think this one is so cute and funny!

You can also be more sentimental and text something like:

“Drove by our favorite wine bar last night and thought about all the fun times we had there. More to come baby…”

4. The I can’t wait to see you text

“When I see you I’m gonna give you the biggest hug!”

Let them know you can’t wait to see them. Tell them you’re gonna hug the heck out of them when you guys are reunited! Feeling flirty…take it a step further…

5. The I’m thinking of you text

“You and me, now and forever.”

This is a nice text that reassures your partner that they’re always in your mind.

In a long distance relationship, it’s normal to have doubts about the other person’s feelings. Do they still love us as much? Make sure you reassure your partner from time to time.

6. The if we were together right now text…

People in a long distance relationship have needs just like everyone else. Does it mean we can’t act on them? Absolutely not! Texting is your weapon. So, how to flirt long distance to get each other excited? How about:

“If I was with you right now, what would you do to me?”

Use this type of text as an opening, then indulge in some erotic role-play. Invite your partner to create a sexy story.

The imagination is a powerful thing. Use it!

7. The pretending you were here right now text

“I’m making breakfast. What do you want?”

It’s breakfast time and you’re cooking. Sure, your partner isn’t in the house with you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a bit of role-play! Imagine they were with you. Get them involved and rustle them up some eggs.

8. The I want to share my world with you – via photos text

You don’t need to just write about where you are – you can send pictures and video clips so that your partner really feels involved.

I think this is super important. It’s one thing to say, “Oh, I went to the botanical gardens today.” Actually sending them pics and videos of the botanical gardens is quite another.

Your partner can’t physically be there with you, but they can still share your experiences. So take pictures and videos and get them involved! Open their eyes and make them feel closer to you.

9. The congratulations baby text!

Sometimes we’re too focused on the big stuff that we forget all about the small stuff.

“One more day to go on your five day cleanse. I’m so impressed with your discipline. You can do anything you set your mind to.”

Your partner is achieving things all the time. How often do you congratulate them for their small achievements?

Sometimes, you might forget. If so, make notes. If they’ve got to give a presentation next week, make a note of it so that you can text them about it once it’s over.

Your partner loves to hear words of encouragement from you. Text it to them and make their day! This works both for long distance text flirting for her and him…after all, we all want to feel missed!

10.  The we’ve got this text

“I dreamed about you last night”

Who doesn’t love waking up to a text like this from their lover? It’s even more special when you’re in a long-distance relationship.

“Being in a long distance relationship doesn’t bother me. I’m proud of us and I believe in us.”

It’s totally natural for those in a long-distance romance to get sad and lonely now and then. Doubts will creep in. For this reason, it’s so important that you remind your partner of your conviction that you two will go the distance. Let them know via text that you believe in this relationship.

11. The I’m feeling horny text…

“I know you’re at work, but I just showered. Now I’m naked, wet and don’t know what to do with myself.”

Oh-la-la! Nothing is as racy as a naughty text when your partner is at work. Go on, give them a treat!

You could send a pic, too. Not into nudes? Send them a photo of the steamy bathroom mirror or your towel. Be creative!

12. The you inspire me text

What is a great compliment than letting your partner know he or she makes you want to be a better human? In my opinion, there aren’t many.

“Your dedication to fitness has rubbed off…guess who just joined the gym down the street? :)”


“I got tired of dreaming of your amazing pancakes, so I decided to ace a few breakfast recipes of my own. Can’t wait to make them for you.”

13. The positive vibes texts

People LOVE positivity.

“Just saw a gorgeous sunset that made me think of you. You are the bestest!”


“My mom was asking about you today…I talked her ear off. You’re always my favorite topic”

14. The stroll down memory lane text

“Remember that time when …”

Whenever one of you (or both of you!) are feeling pretty lousy because you’re so far apart, it’s a really good to reminisce about fun times you’ve shared together.

15. The vulnerable text

“Texting is so frustrating because I want you HERE!”

Sometimes, it’s perfectly fine to let off some steam. Is texting enough? Totally not! Don’t beat around the bush and act as though it is. If you’re especially frustrated by the distance today, let them know.

16. The let’s play a texting game text together

“I’ve got an idea…are you up for a fun, little game? ;)”

Texting games are so much fun. They’re a great way to stay in touch with your partner without having to keep thinking of topics of conversation.

And in some ways, playing texting games is almost like hanging out with them at home.


You can try games like emoji translation, or fill in the blank. Or, you could even come up with your own.

17. The suggestive text

“I’m feeling naughty …”

You don’t always have to spell out exactly what you’re thinking…sometimes it’s best to leave it to their imagination.


“Just been to the lingerie department and spent a bit too much …”

Sometimes, a few words paint a thousand sexy pictures. Get your partner in the mood for some naughty fun tonight with a text like this. No need for pics, just the suggestion will do!

18. The I’ve got a surprise for you text

One of the easiest ways to inject a little excitement into your long distance relationship is to add an element of surprise. It could be a weekend together, new lingerie, their favorite concert…the options are limitless.

“I’ve got a surprise for you…but you’ll have to wait until we see each other on Friday. P.S you won’t be disappointed…”

19. The romantic text

Flirting and humor are great, but don’t forget the romance. I’m not suggesting that you go full on cheesy, but DO feel free to get down with your romantic self. For example:

“I am so lucky, because you’re mine!”

“I know perfection doesn’t exist, but you’re pretty darn close…I love you!”

20. The apology text

Misunderstandings happen in every relationship. It’s how you deal with them that either makes your relationship stronger, or crumble. If you feel you have hurt your partner’s feelings, or they have taken something you have said or texted in the wrong way, nip it in the bud. Send a simple apology text and follow up with a phone call.

“I am sorry if I hurt your feelings, it was never my intention. Can we please speak tonight?”

21. The appreciation text

Is your partner your biggest fan? Are they super thoughtful, kind and always go way above and beyond to make sure you feel loved? Don’t let their love go unappreciated. Every so often, send them a heartfelt text letting them know just how much their effort means to you.

“Thank you for always having my back and supporting me. You are always my biggest fan and I love you so much.”

These were 21 text ideas for your long distance relationship. Feel free to tweak them or use them as they are. Good luck and stay happy!

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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