Long distance relationships are tough. Keeping the romance and attraction burning strong can be brutal. Help is officially to the rescue! By pressing just a few buttons (literally), you can turn that lonely separation into a passionate sensation! Text messages are a great way to close the gap, and open the floodgate of romance. However the trick lies in finding the perfect words to send your partner. We’re here to teach you what to say, and just as importantly, how to say it when you’re away from your lover.

If you have been in your share of long distance relationships, you know just how difficult it is to be apart from your significant other.

Instead of looking them deep in the eyes as you chat over morning coffee, phone calls, Skype, emails, instant messages (what’s app) and texts become your main form of communication. Scratching your head asking yourself how can you be flirty and/or romantic through these modern tools? Are you wondering what to say? Yes, long distance relationships can be tough!

Relax! We have some long distance text flirting examples and ideas to fit almost all long distance relationships. Yep, we have a little something for everyone!

So until you both meet again, sweeten the anticipation with only a few words…

Long Distance Relationships Example Texts:


  • Going to hold you so tight when I see you.
  • You should be here, holding me.
  • A kiss for each day that we’re apart.
  • You’re my favorite daydream.


  • My pillow still smells like you.
  • You should hear the smile in my voice when I think of you.
  • Missing the way you move against me when you sleep.


  • Just your voice is enough to turn me on.
  • I want you to be happy, here and naked.
  • Been reading up on new ways to please you…

The DOs & DON’Ts Of Long Distance Relationships Communication

Long distance relationships have rules too:

1. First of all, remember, it’s not only about you. Don’t forget to ask them about their life. Remember the important events in your partner’s schedule; it shows you care.

2. Second, don’t slip into the habit of becoming easily jealous and obsessive. Give them time to reply to your texts and try not to come across as needy. People can feel needy 1000 miles away – desperation comes through every time – even in long distance relationships.

3. Third, keep up regular communication – at least once a day! But remember not to go the other extreme by spamming them. Nothing screams psycho louder than a chain of 10 texts!

4. Fourth, if you’re in different time zones, be considerate and don’t text them too early or late in case they are sleeping.

5. And finally, keep them updated about your life and at least once in a while, let them know that you’re thinking about them and that you love them. Good morning and good night text messages are a great habit to adapt. They let your partner know that you are the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last thing on your mind before you fall asleep.

Sweet Message Idea To Let Her Know She Is Missed

First of all, it’s totally normal to experience a pang of sadness every now and then. Distance is tough. Everyone has their own specific “thing” that makes them happy. It could be music, dance, sports, art, cooking, video games…Pick something that makes you happy and do it! When you are feeling back to your normal self you can start thinking about some great flirty texts for her long distance.

For example, a photo of her pillow, with a sweet message “Only 5 more days to go before I get to fall asleep next to the sexiest, most amazing woman ever. Missing you.”

Flirty Message Idea To Help Him Visualize Sexy You

Maybe you just had dinner with your best friend and her man, and you’re feeling down. Or maybe you’re forced to go to a work function solo without your main squeeze. So many things can sneak up that make you really miss your guy.

Instead of getting depressed, sit down and think about all the amazing things in your relationship. Think about the good times you’ve had, and the future you are building together. Once you’re in a good space, fire up your phone and get flirty. You know your man better than anyone. What makes him hot? Does he love high heels? Red lingerie? Give him a sneak peek of what he has coming…and don’t forget to include a caption 🙂

Are You Ready To Make Sparks Fly In Your Long-Distance Relationship?

Whether you’re just beginning your journey or you have been navigating the distance for years, my best selling long distance guide Text Away The Miles is your secret recipe for success. It is guaranteed to infuse your relationship with renewed passion and connection. Remember that electric feeling that once surged through your relationship? We’re here to reignite that spark and make it burn even brighter! Passion, intimacy and fun…all at your fingertips!

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
Learn more about French Seduction Made Easy.

Recommended Articles


  1. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while , but he moved away and we tried making things work long distance. It worked for a while but the time zone thing is really hard , we can basically only speak to each other for one hour and then one of us need to sleep. Its mostly because his bad sleeping habits and I feel like I cant get his interest like before , How can I get the spark back ?

    1. Hi Nicole,
      If you only have 1 hour per day then try to keep your messages positive and avoid complaining about problems at work or with your family (I know that can be hard to do, but if you feel the need to say something negative talk to your best friend or brother/sister). Also, mix up the tone of your messages – between sweet, funny and flirty. If you are always sweet or always funny than your messages will become boring. Here are a few examples:
      flirty: “Missing your warm body next to mine”
      sweet: “Sending you a text filled with 10’000 kisses”
      Talk about what you wish you could be doing together, to make him feel like he is still part of your life:
      “Wish you were here so we could go to our favorite spot in the park and get in rambling conversations”
      And the last thing…make sure that you make solid plans to meet up, then count down the days “T-20 days until I am going to smother you with kisses”
      Hope this helps!

      1. Thank you Claudia, but things are just not working out with him just a moment ago I told him we should take a break, perhaps after the break we could start over but one hour per day is just not enough for me, anyhow your tips were very good and if we do decide to get back together I will try to put that effort.

  2. Hey Claudia,thank you for the tips.Am in a distance relationship,we meet in working days but now we don’t.Hope your tips work.I love her but with this i think of cheating on her.Thank you

  3. so i have this guy am crushing on and i really want to get him to be interested in me real time and quick too. what do i do?

    1. Hi Grace,
      Sorry for the mix up, I just saw your first message now. If you see him face to face, then ask him a few questions, make eye contact, smile and see how he reacts (does he smile back, tease you, ask you questions?…). If you mostly communicate with him either via text or SM, then like one of his posts, and or send him a question and then see what happens. Make sure that your profile photo is cute (guys are visual, so he will definitely take notice). Just make sure that you don’t bombard him with texts. Let him chase you a little…and in the meantime, stay playful and have fun!

  4. We stay at two extreme parts of the country and we only talk over phn n texts . But sometimes when he is hurt we have no words to speak . He goes into depression and feel low . Wot do i do to make him feel complete happy and healthy.? I love him a lot and dont want our love to get fade away

    1. Hello,
      I’m sorry to hear about your guy. I would suggest calling him or asking him to call you when you notice that he is hurt. Texts are never a good way to talk about problems, or deep emotional issues. I don’t think you should try to make him feel complete…he needs to feel complete himself. Instead, be thoughtful, sweet and specific. Send him messages regularly (mix up the timing – morning, noon and night), give him genuine compliments, ask questions, remember special occasions…and make sure that you meet up in the flesh from time to time.

  5. There’s this guy I really like and I think he’s playing me because of how he texts me. When I’m not online he doesn’t care to say hi. When I ask like 3 questions he only answers one and he never cares to be romantic with me. He gives excuses for everything and I don’t know if he’s playing me or not. I don’t know what to do. Help me please

    1. Hi there,
      It’s hard to tell from what you have told me so far if he is playing you or not. Maybe he only answers 1 question because he is in a rush? I’m not sure how old you are, but sometimes younger guys have a hard time being romantic…if he is nice to you when you meet, he answers your messages and he finds a reason to talk to you “just because” there is a good chance he likes you. Guys are usually chatty, unless they like a girl. I would just stay playful and not bombard him with messages. Be positive and funny and let him chase you a little…

    2. I find that most guys in general have a hard time answering more questions than 1 at a time. Try spacing out your questions instead of trying to pack a whole bunch into one question. Guys have a very low attention span.

    3. can tell u that some people are like this. It took me two years to figure it out. It is not that they don’t care. Well maybe for some. Some people, like my girl, just have ADD and/or always (and i mean always!) in a rush. lol. I have learned to preface the important questions with a DQ (which means for us a direct question and very important that one takes precedence). It works for us and we have fun with it.

  6. Hi claudia,good day to you! I just want to share my experience now in long distance relationship..we meet online in a one of those thousands of dating sites in this technology…when I first saw his profile pic,I really like this men and suddenly I tried to send him a msgs..so he replied sooner and now we’re sending everyday a sweet msgs.sending pics of each other…my concern is I think I fall in love with this guy already,,what will I do? Is it possible?? Thanks and regards

    1. Hey Vergie,
      I hope you are having a wonderful weekend, it’s great to hear from you! Even if the messages are sweet, you like his photos and he seems like a nice person, I would be very careful about falling in love with someone that you have never met. Does he live nearby? Would it be possible to meet him in the near future?

  7. Hi Claudia.there is this girl we used to be classmates then she left the country to Egypt then to US so once she reached there, our relationship become more brighter then it was b4 but the only prob we face currently is she can’t come back to me now and I can’t go there bcz of circumstances how ever to reunite will take us time and we both promised to ve faith and confidence but sometimes I feel disappointed on distance between us,
    What is advice on a relationship like mine?

    1. Hi Adde,
      If you are both ready and willing to work at it, then I think the relationship can work out. It’s important to share with her the important things that happen in your life as well as planning for the day that you will be together. Try and mix up your style of communication – Skype, photos, voice messages, phone call and of course text messages. Don’t let yourself get into the rut of venting about your day (annoying colleagues, long commutes, etc.) rather try to share with her all of the positive things (such as moments with your friends and family, doing something you love, etc.).
      Please send me an email if you would like some long distance texting ideas ([email protected])
      Good luck!

  8. hey…. am in love with a man I fell inlove with through media and we’ve been dating for 5months now…. and we are meeting next month but we don’t talk like we used to… he seems busy but when I ask him he says he’s not and we get mixed up most times we argue mostly then he says sorry and assures he loves me
    my question is he really inlove with me as I much as I love him or does he just force it

    1. Hi there,
      I think it’s great that you are meeting him in person. Social media can only go so far…If you are planning on meeting in 1 month, then just keep the conversation going without forcing it, and avoid fighting (arguing by text is horrible…it can get out of control so fast!). When you meet in person, watch to see how he acts. Do his action match his words and texts? I think you will feel very quickly whether he is in love with you or not.
      Good luck!

  9. am in love with a girl but she told me she started dating a boy two weeks back but am not sure about this.
    tell me words,texts to send her pllz she left me speechless

    1. Hi Sulli,
      Now that a little time has passed, I would send her a message such as “Just checking in on the girl with the beautiful smile – single yet? I’d love to take you out for (ice cream, coffee, a drink, etc.) :)”
      If she says that she is still with her boyfriend, I would reply “He’s one lucky guy…hopefully some day I’ll be in his place :)”

  10. Dear Claudia,
    I am having a long distance online relationship and I really love the guy but don’t really know how to keep the spark. How can I keep him interested?

    1. Hi AllAmerican,
      Keep things interesting my mixing up your messages (types of messages – video, photos, voice, text) and also the topics (being sweet and appreciative of him one time, and flirty and funny the next time). Try texting him at different times during the day, and do little things to create intimacy such as sending him photos of places you like to go together (or even his side of the bed) and letting him know that he’s missed. Keep the mundane, such as my colleague is so annoying, etc. type of complaints out of your daily conversations and you will be on the right path to keeping the spark alive.

  11. Hey Claudia, I’ve been dating this guy over a year. It’s long distance and at first it was really good. He always texted, called . Sent me I’m thinking of u text. I love u text. Recently he just slowed all of that up. We still talk . Still see each other. He has a different job so it’s harder. Which I understand. I tell him just like use to miss him. Can’t wait to see him. But now he just says let things happen. He used to say my girl and my baby. Not the last month or so. Any suggestions to get that in love feeling from him

    1. Hi Rhonda,
      I would suggest speaking to him about it next time you see him in person. Tell him that his sweet messages really mean a lot to you, and that you miss receiving them. If he says he doesn’t understand what you are saying, show him a few of his latest cold messages. Maybe he doesn’t realize that he is pulling away. If he still says “lets just let things happen”, ask him where he sees the relationship going…one year is already a big investment. If you are 100% in, and he’s not, maybe it is a good idea to think about dating other people. You deserve to be happy and feel loved.
      Good luck!
      Bisous x

  12. Hi claudia, I’m in a long distance relationship for a while now. Recently i find my self not kniw What to say to him. Communication was great between But now it seems as if he is not interested, Probably this is Why I find my self not knowing What to say to him. I don’t want to seem to needy or naggy. Any suggestion How to get things back on track with him?

    1. Hi Roma,
      It’s easy to get into a rut when you’re in a long distance relationship. So, to start with, I would suggest mixing up your communication – if you always text, send him a voice message, photo or FaceTime him. I think another one of easiest habits to get into when you’re in a long distance relationship is venting about daily stuff. So, try and avoid sending him a ton of negative messages. Instead, text about future plans together, or bring up fun things that you did in the past and let him know that you can’t wait to do it again. Let him know why you fell in love with him in the first place, and why you still want to be with him even though you are miles apart.
      Please email me if I can help.

  13. Hi Claudia, my boyfriend is workaholic and love his job .. always busy and sometimes he does not reply my text but after a few days later he explains everything. I’m also jealous, because he’s so handsome and yes , my friends also like him. I need some advice from you to stay positive and trust him no matter what happen

    1. Hi Erlina,
      I’m sorry that you are feeling sad:( If you are going to stay with him in the long run then you need to learn to trust him.
      The fact that your friends like him shows that he has some attractive qualities. So, instead of feeling jealous, work on making yourself happy (follow your dreams, work hard at what you love, take care of yourself and be kind to others) and at the same time watch his actions – does he always keep his word? Does he flirt with other girls in front of you? Does he listen when you are speaking? Does he remember little things? These are the important things to look out for…
      So, in a nutshell, decide for yourself if he is trustworthy or not, and keep focusing on what makes you happy…it will help you stay positive!
      Sending tons of positive energy your way
      xo Claudia

  14. Hai dear IAM attracted to a person who is considering me as just one of his fan .How can I conquer his mind.In fact I don’t want to use his influence popularity or anything.I just want his love and attention.How to convey this decently.

    1. Hi Nikki,
      That’s a tough situation as he probably has a lot of people after his fame. I’m not sure what type of relationship you have with him (have you met him in person? is he someone you have only been following from afar?). In either case, show interest in things that he isn’t famous for, but he is passionate about. For example, if he shares some photos he took, or talks about a favorite book then build on that. Be patient and try to develop a connection with him based on things you both like (not just praising his talent). I hope that helps!

  15. really need ways to spice up my long distaste relationship, dating for 3 years but sense hes seeing someone else, guess hes tired of our boring conversation. i need urgent help cause i love and dont want to lose him

    1. Hi Bim,
      In addition to changing up when and what you send (sometimes send good morning texts, sometimes good night, sometimes a random thinking of you because text in the middle of the day) I would bring up shared flirty memories such as “remember that time we…can’t wait to do it again :)” Or let him know that you have sexy plans for him next time you see him “when you get off that plane you are all mine…” Don’t be shy to tell him specifically what you like (and miss) about him. Stay away from negative, mundane chatter (keep that for your friends and family). Spend some time focusing on what brought you together in the first place, and the good times that you have shared.
      Email me if I can help more! 🙂

  16. Hello Claudia, I am in a LDR with a girl and sometimes she acts as careless and sometimes she acts as if she is deeply in love with me, it is like she already calculated to play with my feeling.. I saw her having a hard time saying, just ‘I love you’ or ‘I miss you’. she take long time to reply . I feel like she is having a competition with me for no reason… I need help.

    1. Hi Phil,
      If she is playing games, or acting strange then I definitely would talk to her face to face next time you see her. LDR are tough enough without the added drama. You need to know if she is in, or out. I wouldn’t have this type of conversation over text, it’s too difficult and it’s likely to end with misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
      Email me if I can help.
      Bisous xo

  17. I am in a relationship with my girl since last 5 months nd there has barely been romance in it. My gf doesn’t rly expect me to get romantic, tho i would love to do that if i could but i can’t nd i need help. I do talk about common thing nd all that nd well kind of make her melt nd she does that back to me. But there is still a gap that needs to be filled. We talk all day everyday nd share everything nd laugh together.

    1. Hi John,
      If you want to inject some romance in your relationship, then start by showing appreciation. Text her specific examples of things you appreciate that she does for you. For example “I love it when you make my favorite cookies just for no reason at all”. You can also text her specific compliments about her personality, looks and aspirations. All of these little things add up, and before you know it your relationship will be more romantic.
      Good luck!

      1. Hey, well i was thinking that if i take things a bit further. Like there is romance, yes, but like, can i ask her for pics of her without anything on? Would it end our relationship or something or it would slide and she would understand nd go for it. Cuz she does trust me, but she sees me as the innocent guy who would ask for anything like that or use cursing words ( cuz i never rly do ). If i should, then who should i do it?

        1. Hi John,
          It sounds like you are just in the beginning of your relationship, so I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to ask her for naked pics…Instead I would just focus on getting to know her better, and turning up the romance in person. A lot of women are uncomfortable sending naked pics, so definitely proceed with caution, or you could throw a potentially good thing away.

          1. Hi,

            Well i remember posting the above comment loong while ago, well it’s during those days i’ve got to know her better and all and things have gone a bit furhter too and i did get to see her 😅, it ofc depends on how much trust has built up and i did my best to build up my trust and everythings going good. It’s just a little update 🙂 and ur works great *thumbs up* :).

          2. Hi John,
            It’s really nice to hear from you, thank you for the update! 🙂 I’m so happy that everything worked out. I’m always here if you need anything.
            Sending tons of positive energy your way!

  18. I met this met this white guy on tinder he match with me and we started talking from there then we move to whatsapp and one day i just ask him what he was looking for on tinder and he said girls😁 than i playfully ask him how many he has got so far he said non that he was looking for the perfect girl i told him there is not anything like perfect then he said i look beautiful i was like you are cute too he said he had date me if we were in same country P.S note am in nigeria he lives in Germany then the next day i post one of my picture on my whatsapp status and view it and said your lips are beautiful and your eyes are charming from that day he will send me love text and started telling me he cares about me we talk everyday and also talk on video call he shares his daily activities with me he said he has fallen deeply inlove with me and i think i have fallen inlove with him too he smiles very came when he looks at me on video call but the thing is am scared i don’t know if he truly loves me or if the long distance relationship is gonna work. Please how do i know if he is really not playing with me..

    1. Hi Grace,
      It’s nice to hear from you! I’m happy that you met someone that you really like, but I can understand that it’s tough to know if what he says is true or not. With everything going on in the world at the moment it’s not easy to travel. Did he tell you that you are exclusive and he is no longer on Tinder or any other dating apps? Does he try to get to know you, or is everything just flirty/sexy? Does he talk about meeting you face to face in the future (when it’s safe to travel). Do you know where he is in his life – is he still in school or looking to settle down? Are you ready to move to another country and leave your family and friends for a guy? Just some things to think about before you get your heart too invested. Listen to your gut and watch his actions.

Leave A Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *