Flirting Tips To Get Back In The Game

Flirting isn’t just the domain of young lovers, little boys pulling the girls pony tails on the bus, or loved-up newly-weds, it’s something for everyone, at every age to enjoy. Unfortunately it is one of those things that we easily get out of the habit of doing. And like all good habits, the less we do of it, the more uncomfortable we feel when we try – so eventually, we give up trying. But don’t worry, we’ve got the best flirting tips to help you get back in the game.

Mistake. Stop. Break this vicious cycle…and follow these flirting tips.

Flirting is the good stuff in life. It’s the icing on the cupcake, or the cool before the storm. It makes you feel attractive. Even better: it makes the person you are flirting with feel attractive.

Win: win, Right? Right.

Then you’ll definitely agree that it’s about time you add flirting back into your adult life!

What Is Flirting?

Before I get started, I probably need to define what flirting is: Flirting is anything that you genuinely feel like doing to make someone else feel special. It’s about showcasing your authentic self and making a genuine connection.

It’s not groping, spamming, being fake, trying too hard, or getting all raunchy. There are other words for that.

Now we’ve cleared that up, let’s get on with it!

Here’s Your Go-To Guide Filled With Flirting Tips

Here is a simple guide filled with flirting tips on how to be a comfortable (and successful) adult flirt.

1. Change Your Mindset

First things first. I’m a firm believer in visualization and the power of positive thinking.

Get rid of any personal mental images of flirting as something that is aggressive, sleazy, or needy, and start thinking of flirting as a positive interaction that makes people feel good.

Start picturing yourself successfully flirting with your husband, boyfriend or the guy you are meeting for the first time with confident confidence. Tweet “Believe you can flirt & spread your fairy dust of flirty fun.

2. Action Cures Fear

Second up is the importance of beginning slowly. If your ultimate goal is to flirt up a storm with the attractive gentleman your friend is setting you up with next Saturday, don’t wait for next Saturday to start flirting.

Begin today.

A. Start With A Smile

Smiles are key, and a warm smile can make a significant difference. Smile at:

– A stranger while looking them in the eyes. – The guy behind the check out counter at the grocery store. – The bus driver when you buy your ticket.

B. Flirty Eye Contact Is Huge

Looking someone in the eyes and smiling demands more courage than you think, so it’s the best place to start getting your confidence up with flirty eye contact.

Smile, and mean it. You’ll probably make their day!

3. Ramp It Up

Now that you are comfortable smiling and you’re noticing people smiling back, take another baby step: give a little something else.

A. Start With Low Risk Situations

Start with low-risk situations to practice, because even if you crash and burn (which everyone does! Even the pros) you have a limited amount of time with the person, and you’ll probably never see them again!

When you’re at the post office, say something light and fun to the handsome man behind the counter. Practicing in a group setting can also help you become more comfortable.

B. Flirty Examples

Anything. Even something about the weather,

“It’s a cooker out there, I hope you have a hidden freezer with ice cream back there”, or, “Can’t believe it’s almost September, bet you’re already getting letters for Santa”.

Say something positive and cute, and match it with a smile. Keeping the mood light is crucial for successful flirting.

4. Send Flirty Text Messages

There is no better way to practice your charm and warm your partner up then sending some flirty texts before an evening out.

The key is to insinuate things, rather than send texts that are overly sexual (especially if you were mostly sending grocery lists before).

Example Texts To Try:

Here are a few examples for you:

“I love the way your suit grips your huge shoulders”
or “when I think of you I can’t stop smiling”
or, “looking forward to Friday…sending you oodles of text kisses”.

Yes, I know text kisses don’t exist. He knows that. But it’s cute. Be cute.

5. Lay It On – Get Physical

Now you’ve mastered smiling, the flirty small talk, and you’ve set the stage for success by sending a few teasing text messages. So, what’s next?

It’s time to get physical!

A. Use The Right Body Language

When you’re finally face to face with the object of your affections, lay on your feminine charm, literally. Remember, there’s a fine line between being engaging and crossing into uncomfortable territory.

B. Know Where To Touch Him

Wondering where to touch him?

– Touch his arm gently, just on his bicep, when he speaks to you. – Keep his face next to yours a split second longer than necessary when he gives you “air kisses”. – Brush up against him as you move around. – Cross your legs, and let them linger.

C. Reciprocate His Affection

If he hugs you, don’t play dead, pull him in firm and close. Use open body language whenever you’re interacting, and don’t cross your arms…these little things add up and make for a very flirty atmosphere.

And the flirtiest thing you can do?

Listen.

Show him that he has your full, undivided attention, by hardly ever taking your eyes off him and gazing into the person’s eyes.

6. Develop a Sense of Humor

A. Use Humor to Break the Ice

Developing a sense of humor is an essential aspect of flirting. Humor can help break the ice and create a relaxed atmosphere, making it easier to connect with someone. When using humor to flirt, it’s essential to be authentic and not try too hard. A well-timed joke or witty remark can go a long way in showing your interest and building a connection.

Using humor to break the ice can be as simple as sharing a funny story or making a lighthearted comment about a shared experience. The key is to be genuine and not try to force it. Remember, humor is subjective, so it’s essential to gauge the other person’s sense of humor and adjust your approach accordingly.

Some tips for using humor to break the ice include:

• Start with a lighthearted comment or joke to set the tone for the conversation.
• Use self-deprecating humor to show your vulnerable side and build a connection.
• Avoid using humor that may come across as insensitive or off-putting.
• Pay attention to the other person’s body language and adjust your humor accordingly.

By using humor to break the ice, you can create a relaxed and playful atmosphere that sets the stage for a fun and flirtatious conversation.

7. Ask Questions and Listen

A. Ask Thoughtful Questions

Asking questions and listening actively is a crucial aspect of flirting. It shows that you’re interested in getting to know the other person and builds a connection. When asking questions, it’s essential to be thoughtful and genuine, avoiding generic or superficial questions.

Some tips for asking thoughtful questions include:

• Ask open-ended questions that encourage the other person to share more about themselves.
• Show genuine interest in the other person’s hobbies, interests, or passions.
• Avoid asking questions that may come across as prying or intrusive.
• Listen actively and respond thoughtfully to what the other person has to say.

By asking thoughtful questions and listening actively, you can build a connection with the other person and create a sense of mutual interest.

8. Be Yourself

A. Authenticity is Key

Being yourself is the most important aspect of flirting. Authenticity is key to building a genuine connection with someone. When you’re yourself, you’re more likely to come across as confident and attractive.

Some tips for being yourself include:

• Avoid trying to be someone you’re not or pretending to have interests you don’t really have.
• Be honest and authentic in your interactions with the other person.
• Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerable side and be open about your feelings.
• Remember that it’s okay to make mistakes and that imperfections are a natural part of being human.

By being yourself, you can create a sense of trust and connection with the other person, which is essential for building a strong and healthy relationship.

Now It’s Your Turn

What did I tell you? Full-on adult flirting tips sans “the pony-tail pulling” is easier than you think.

No manipulation.

Nothing vulgar.

Free.

Being yourself is the most important aspect of flirting. Authenticity is key to building a genuine connection with someone, so always show the real you.

Flirting Tips To Keep In Mind

Flirting is as simple as smiling, making light conversation, opening up your body language, sending cute text messages, and listening intently, regardless of whether you’re flirting with the opposite sex.

Did you notice that these flirting tips are all about making the other person feel a certain way? Special.