Flirting isn’t just the domain of young lovers, little boys pulling the girls pony tails on the bus, or loved-up newly-weds, it’s something for everyone, at every age to enjoy. Unfortunately it is one of those things that we easily get out of the habit of doing. And like all good habits, the less we do of it, the more uncomfortable we feel when we try – so eventually, we give up trying.

Mistake. Stop. Break this vicious cycle…and follow these flirting tips.

Flirting is the good stuff in life. It’s the icing on the cupcake, or the cool before the storm. It makes you feel attractive. Even better: it makes the person you are flirting with feel attractive.

Win: win, Right? Right.

Then you’ll definitely agree that it’s about time you add flirting back into your adult life!

What Is Flirting?

Before I get started, I probably need to define what flirting is: Flirting is anything that you genuinely feel like doing to make someone else feel special.

It’s not groping, spamming, being fake, trying too hard, or getting all raunchy. There are other words for that.

Now we’ve cleared that up, let’s get on with it!

Here’s Your Go-To Guide Filled With Flirting Tips

Here is a simple guide filled with flirting tips on how to be a comfortable (and successful) adult flirt.

1. Change Your Mindset

First things first. I’m a firm believer in visualization and the power of positive thinking.

Get rid of any personal mental images of flirting as something that is aggressive, sleazy, or needy, and start thinking of flirting as a positive interaction that makes people feel good.

Start picturing yourself successfully flirting with your husband, boyfriend or the guy you are meeting for the first time. Tweet “Believe you can flirt & spread your fairy dust of flirty fun.

2. Action Cures Fear

Second up is the importance of beginning slowly. If your ultimate goal is to flirt up a storm with the attractive gentleman your friend is setting you up with next Saturday, don’t wait for next Saturday to start flirting.

Begin today.

A. Start With A Smile

Smiles are key. Smile at:

– A stranger while looking them in the eyes.
– The guy behind the check out counter at the grocery store.
– The bus driver when you buy your ticket.

B. Eye Contact Is Huge

Looking someone in the eyes and smiling demands more courage than you think, so it’s the best place to start getting your confidence up.

Smile, and mean it. You’ll probably make their day!

3. Ramp It Up

Now that you are comfortable smiling and you’re noticing people smiling back, take another baby step: give a little something else.

A. Start With Low Risk Situations

Start with low-risk situations to practice, because even if you crash and burn (which everyone does! Even the pros) you have a limited amount of time with the person, and you’ll probably never see them again!

When you’re at the post office, say something light and fun to the handsome man behind the counter.

B. Flirty Examples

Anything. Even something about the weather,

“It’s a cooker out there, I hope you have a hidden freezer with ice cream back there”,
“Can’t believe it’s almost September, bet you’re already getting letters for Santa”.

Say something positive and cute, and match it with a smile.

4. Send Flirty Text Messages

There is no better way to practice your charm and warm your partner up then sending some flirty texts before an evening out.

The key is to insinuate things, rather than send texts that are overly sexual (especially if you were mostly sending grocery lists before).

Example Texts To Try:

Here are a few examples for you:

“I love the way your suit grips your huge shoulders”
“when I think of you I can’t stop smiling”
“looking forward to Friday…sending you oodles of text kisses”.

Yes, I know text kisses don’t exist. He knows that. But it’s cute. Be cute.

5. Lay It On – Get Physical

Now you’ve mastered smiling, the flirty small talk, and you’ve set the stage for success by sending a few teasing text messages. So, what’s next?

It’s time to get physical!

A. Use The Right Body Language

When you’re finally face to face with the object of your affections, lay on your feminine charm, literally.

B. Know Where To Touch Him

Wondering where to touch him?

– Touch his arm gently, just on his bicep, when he speaks to you.
– Keep his face next to yours a split second longer than necessary when he gives you “air kisses”.
– Brush up against him as you move around.
– Cross your legs, and let them linger.

C. Reciprocate His Affection

If he hugs you, don’t play dead, pull him in firm and close. Use open body language whenever you’re interacting, and don’t cross your arms…these little things add up and make for a very flirty atmosphere.

And the flirtiest thing you can do?


Show him that he has your full, undivided attention, by hardly ever taking your eyes off him.

Now It’s Your Turn

What did I tell you? Full-on adult flirting tips sans “the pony-tail pulling” is easier than you think.

No manipulation.

Nothing vulgar.


Flirting Tips To Keep In Mind

Flirting is as simple as smiling, making light conversation, opening up your body language, sending cute text messages and listening intently.

Did you notice that these flirting tips are all about making the other person feel a certain way? Special.

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
Learn more about French Seduction Made Easy.

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