There is a lot to be said for your texting game in 2023, despite more and more people telling us we should go back to talking on the phone.
Look, talking on the phone is great. I love it! But there is a time and a place for it, just like there is a time and a place for texting.
For example, if your crush is cold – in other words, not interested in you and has no idea you’re interested in them – a phone call isn’t going to make them warm. Why? Because you can’t just go from not knowing someone to phoning them. It’s totally weird! Instead, you have to use texting to warm them up. Then you get them on the phone.
This is just one way good texting skills come in handy in today’s dating scene. Let’s take a look at a few more reasons why it pays to have a good texting game.
Texting Helps You Get To Know Someone New
Texting is a great communication tool that helps us get to know new people. It might not help us know them intimately, but it’s still a great way to build connections with people all over the world.
I’ve made many friends via texting. Some of them, I still haven’t even met. The friendship is purely text-based, but I can honestly say that each friend has enriched my life.
I wouldn’t have made a connection with any of them if I’d had a weak texting game.
Texting also helps you get to know that special new someone in your life. You can text them whenever you want, ask questions, send pictures and videos. You won’t always be able to see them face-to-face or speak on the phone, and texting helps to fill in the gap.
Strengthens Long-Distance Relationships
Let’s say your partner (or you) has to go away for a while. You’re both upset about this, but they seem more upset than you.
Why? Because they know you’re rubbish at texting!
It pays to have a strong texting game when you can’t see your partner in person for a while. And this doesn’t just mean that you’re flirty and chatty via text. It means that you text often, don’t go literally hours without replying, and that you say the right things. Without texting, a long-distance relationship can easily lose it’s spark.
Texting Enhances A Relationship
If you’re in a relationship, texting is about more than just saying something. It’s about using your phone to surprise them while they’re at work with a loving or sexy message.
It’s about using your phone to involve them in your day, update them, and make them giggle when you aren’t around.
You can use your texting game to make them feel special, tell them you love them, and keep in touch with them throughout the day.
Your Texting Game Helps You Get More Dates
Ever sent a crush a text message for the first time and they reply? It’s awesome! You’re in. They want to talk to you.
Excited, you send another text.
A few minutes pass and they still haven’t replied. It’s okay, people get busy.
An hour passes and they still haven’t replied.
Impatient, you send another another text message. Perhaps you decide to correct a typo in your last one. you know, just to get their attention.
Only it doesn’t work. They still haven’t replied. What gives? One minute they were interested and now they’re not?
Why Does That Happen?
Truth is, they were probably never going to be interested unless you gave them a reason to be. And your poor texting game let you down.
If you’re a smooth talker in real life but an awful texter, what’s just happened is that you totally blew it with your crush. They were willing to get to know you via text, but you came off badly.
The First Date
Texting plays an important role in setting up a first date. True, a lot of us are a lot different in real life than we are in a chat box. But you can’t underestimate the key role texting plays in catching someone’s interest.
The better you are at texting, the more first dates you can set up.
You Won’t Lose Their Interest
You’ve been texting for about a week now and you think that’s pretty good. It’s been going quite well!
Then – out of the blue – they stop replying. Why?
Take a look at your last few texts. It could be they simply got bored.
If you’re weak at texting, you might keep them interested briefly. Eventually, though, they’ll lose interest. Your one-word answers, inability to flirt, and your reliance on GIF’s will find you out.
These are a few reasons why it pays to have a great texting game. Got anything you’d like to add? Feel free to leave us a comment and remember to share!