Did you know that if you want to be a happy texter, you have to actually tell people how you like to be texted?
The other day I was with a woman who was upset because the guy she was seeing was only calling her up late at night. It made her feel like she was nothing more than a booty call.
Another woman asked her if she had already told him how his late night calls were making her feel. When she answered “no,” the other woman said “You have to tell your partner how you want to be dated”. This rule is great for dating, but it’s also great texting advice.
What’s Your Flavor?
Do you have any specific texting requests that your partner should know about? For example:
Timing: do you dislike receiving messages before 9am or after 11pm?
Spam: Is your partner “text happy” and impatiently texts you before you even have the chance to respond to their last text?
Length: do super long email style messages annoy you?
Emojos: are too many smiley faces killing the message you partner is trying to get across?
Texting Advice For My Friends
I personally hate it when someone writes me a message without saying hello. I realize that it’s not practical to expect someone to write “Dear Claudia” at the beginning of each text message, but I want my partner to at least say “Hey Claudia!” before launching into a full-blown conversation.
Of course not everyone understands my pet peeve, but instead of keeping a lid on my annoyance, I try to let my friends know. For example, I have a very busy friend who always texted me “sans greeting”. Each time I received one of his messages I found myself slightly annoyed.
So, instead of holding it inside, I told him. Although he doesn’t quite understand, he always makes sure to add “Salut C,” at the beginning of a text exchange. Thanks to this small tweak our communication is better than ever!
Be Cool But Be Open
You don’t have to make a big deal out of it, but you should always feel comfortable talking about your needs with your romantic partner, even if it is just about texting.
How do you want to be texted? Leave a comment, I would love to hear from you.