If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you don’t need me to tell you how difficult it is. You know how tough it is. But precisely because the lows are so insanely low, the highs you experience are unbelievably high. And it’s these highs that make us want to persevere with long-distance romances. They make it totally worth it. Is there a better thrill than meeting up with your partner after so much time apart?!

So, you’ve made the decision to keep going with your long distance relationship, despite living so far away from them. I’m so happy for you! You’ll know deep down in your heart that it’s the right decision.

You also know that, unlike ordinary relationships, you can’t wake up with your partner lying next to you. You can’t listen to the beat of their heart, or feel the warmth of their breath on your face, and you can’t make you both breakfast in bed.

Instead, you have modern communication tools to keep the relationship candle burning bright. You have Skype, emails – and texting.

I love texting my partner whenever they’re away for long spells. Because smartphones now let us send videos and pictures, texting helps us all to feel closer to our partners.

It’s not the same as having them next to us, but it helps to keep the relationship going in the right direction before we’re reunited.

If we didn’t have texting, we really would be lost!

However, it’s important that you send text messages that are exciting and get answered – as opposed to boring texts that kill the relationship dead and make them want to ghost you. Not cool.

If you’re new to a long distance relationship and aren’t so sure what to text your partner, let’s take a look at 30 text ideas!

Let Them Know You Miss Them

I’m sure you’ve already told them that you miss them via text.

“I miss you.”

But have you let them know that you really miss them?

When you text your partner to tell them that you miss them, you’ve got a great opportunity to open up about how much you miss them, as well as what you miss about them.

Don’t be afraid to be specific. Let them know that you miss their voice, their body, their smile. Let them know you miss their morning face, or the way they always burn dinner! Be cute and funny. Go into details.

“Just ordered three masked men to come and kidnap you. #SorryNotSorry.”

You miss them like heck but don’t want to keep whining about it to them. So inject some black humor into your texts!

“Just been to the lingerie department and spent a bit too much …”

Sometimes, a few words paint a thousand sexy pictures. Get your partner in the mood for some naughty fun tonight with a text like this. No need for pics this time. Just the suggestion will do!

“Just burned my toast. It reminded me of you.”

Aww, I think this one is so cute and funny! Try a variation on it. For example, if they always leave the toilet seat up, say, “Someone left the toilet seat up at work today. It reminded me of you. So I sat on the toilet and cried my eyes out.”

LOL! Sarcasm much??

“Tell me about your day …”

When it comes to texting in a long distance relationship, it’s really important that you don’t get caught up in the trap of making it all about you. Remember to make it about them, too. Ask them how their day went, invite them to tell you a story.

Don’t Text Too Much

In a long distance relationship, is there such a thing as too much? As hard as it might be to believe, there is!

At first, you both might be happy to text all the time. Eventually, though, when one of you becomes busy and can’t text so often, the other may get miffed and become demanding.

My advice is that you refrain from texting too much from the beginning. Keep your texting game cool. Take it easy. Don’t overwhelm them. And don’t ever say, “Texting is all we have. Why do you never text?!”

“When I see you I’m gonna give you the biggest hug!”

Let them know you can’t wait to see them. Tell them you’re gonna hug the heck out of them when you guys are reunited!

“Though we’re apart a lot, I’m always thinking about you!”

This is a nice text that reassures your partner that they’re always in your mind.

In a long distance relationship, it’s normal to have doubts about the other person’s feelings. Do they still love us as much? Make sure you reassure your partner from time to time.

People in a long distance relationship have needs just like everyone else. Does it mean we can’t act on them? Absolutely not! Texting is your weapon. Use it to get each other excited!

“If I was with you right now, what would you do to me?”


“I’m feeling naughty …”

Following on from the above text, it’s always good to indulge in some erotic role-play. Invite your partner to create sexy images in your mind. Ask them what they’d do to you if you were together right now.

The imagination is a powerful thing. Use it!

“I’m making breakfast. What do you want?”

It’s breakfast time and you’re cooking. Sure, your partner isn’t in the house with you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a bit of role-play! Imagine they were with you. Get them involved and rustle them up some eggs.

Send Pictures of Your Surroundings

You don’t need to just write about where you are – you can send pictures and video clips so that your partner really feels involved.

I think this is super important. It’s one thing to say, “Oh, I went to the botanical gardens today.” Actually sending them pics and videos of the botanical gardens is quite another.

Your partner can’t physically be there with you, but they can still share your experiences. So take pictures and videos and get them involved! Open their eyes and make them feel closer to you.

Congratulate Them

I think that sometimes we’re too focused on the big stuff that we forget all about the small stuff.

Your partner is achieving things all the time. How often do you congratulate them for their small achievements?

Sometimes, you might forget. If so, make notes. If they’ve got to give a presentation next week, make a note of it so that you can text them about it once it’s over.

Your partner loves to hear words of encouragement from you. Text it to them and make their day!

“I dreamed about you last night”

Who doesn’t love waking up to a text like this from their lover? It’s even more special when you’re in a long-distance relationship.

“Being in a long distance relationship doesn’t bother me. I’m proud of us and believe in us.”

It’s totally natural for those in a long-distance romance to get sad and lonely now and then. Doubts will creep in. For this reason, it’s so important that you remind your partner of your conviction that you two will go the distance. Let them know via text that you believe in this relationship.

“I know you’re at work, but I just showered. Now I’m naked, wet and don’t know what to do with myself.”

Oh-la-la! Nothing is as racy as a naughty text when your partner is at work. Go on, give them a treat!

You could send a pic, too. Not into nudes? Send them a photo of the steamy bathroom mirror or your towel. Be creative!

Send Them a Poem

You could write your own poem and send it if you’re feeling literary, or you could quote a famous love poem instead.

Be Positive!

People LOVE positivity.

Do you know what can really kill long-distance relationships? Negative energy via text!

Is it possible to send negative energy via text? Totally. Here is an example.

“You didn’t text for so long last night. Who were you with?”

In isolation, that text is okay. But it’s soaked in suspicion. And the more you send that kind of text, the harder the relationship will become.

Let’s say you keep saying things like this:

“You never text first! Well, you know what? I’m busy today too. Speak tomorrow.”

Pretty soon, your partner won’t want to text because they won’t want the aggro that texting causes.

You need to stay positive when texting a long-distance partner. Even if you don’t feel particularly positive, it’s important that you appear to be positive.

If they stayed out late, tell them you hope they had fun!

If they’re always late at responding to your texts, tell them you hope their boss isn’t working them too hard!

Get it?

Positivity will make your long-distance romance much, much easier. Once you start getting negative in their texts, your best form of communication becomes something they might start to avoid.

“Remember that time when …”

Whenever one of you (or both of you!) are feeling pretty lousy because you’re so far apart, it’s a really good to reminisce about fun times you’ve shared together.

Even if you’ve not yet met you could reminisce about Skype calls or misunderstandings in your text messages.

“Texting is so frustrating because I want you HERE!”

Sometimes, it’s perfectly fine to let off some steam. Is texting enough? Totally not! Don’t beat around the bush and act as though it is. If you’re especially frustrated by the distance today, let them know.

Play Texting Games

Texting games are so much fun. They’re a great way to stay in touch with your partner without having to keep thinking of topics of conversation.

And in some ways, playing texting games is almost like hanging out with them at home.


If you’re feeling in the mood, you could up the ante by playing flirty texting games.

These were 21 text ideas for your long distance relationship. Feel free to tweak them or use them as they are. Good luck and stay happy!

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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