Since most holiday text messages are short and written on the fly, it’s easy for the context to get lost in translation, even at Christmas. But never fear, we’re here to guide you every step of the way to ensure you don’t put a foot, or rather sticky candy cane coated finger in your mouth this joyous Christmas day.
“Just Starting Out” Stage
My personal definition of a “just starting out” relationship is fewer than 5 dates. So, if you already have a toothbrush at their place, move on to the next section! The key to mastering appropriate communication for this relationship level is being cool, fun and light. Keep things simple, and don’t over do it or you’ll risk coming across as needy.
Tip 1: You’re On My Mind
Show that you’re thinking of them – out of sight, but never out of mind (and especially not on Christmas day!).
“Just bought a bottle of Malbec for our family Christmas dinner, that’s your favorite, right?”
“Can you stop occupying my thoughts, I’m trying to celebrate Christmas here! ;)”
Tip 2: Flirt Without Being Crude
This is where the concept of “light” comes into play. No full on nudity or raunchy sexual fantasies. Instead, if you’re sitting on the beach you could text:
“Just wait until you see my tan lines ;)”
“Could really use your help with the suntan lotion…”
Or, if you’re “chilling out” some place cold, you could send:
“Brrr it’s pretty cold here…want to send me a virtual hug to warm me up?”
“I can see you and I sitting in front of a toasty fire getting to know each other better.”
And if you are celebrating at home:
“Merry Christmas to the sweetest of the sweet! bet you don’t even do naughty ;)”
“Don’t trust bearded men…even with presents.”
“Keeping out of trouble this Christmas? or out making naked snow angels again? ;)”
Getting Serious Stage
As opposed to just starting out, once you’ve reached this level of “seriousness”, you have more options (and more information “ammo”) at your disposal. So go ahead and let your naughty flag fly high…
Tip 1: Get Down On It (And Get Flirty Baby!)
Everyone likes to feel lusted after, so if you are feeling all cheery, spread the love and let them know how much you “dig them”.
“My perfect Christmas? You and me lying next to each other…naked….anywhere.”
“Hope that Christmas dinner is as tasty as you ;)”
Tip 2: Show Vulnerability
Holidays are filled with yummy food, blinking lights and pretty decorations. Emotions are running wild. So, it’s a perfect opportunity to open up and show a little piece of you that you might not have shared before.
“Probably shouldn’t tell you this, but I miss you the second you leave”
“You’re by far my favorite Christmas present…”
Been Together For Ages Types Of Relationships
If your relationship has blossomed this far, you can be pretty creative with your holiday text messages. Show your unique sense of humor, remind them of past times, and get them excited about the future.
Tip 1: Express Your Love
Saying thank you, or showing gratitude towards your partner is a key to a lasting relationship.
“It’s not Christmas without you. Missing your touch, smile…everything.”
“It might sound cheesy, but being apart on Christmas has made me realize how much I love you.”
Tip 2: Tease Them
Turn them on remotely with some well chosen images or words. Texting is a wonderful way to keep the sexual tension in your relationship sky high (like your heels ladies!).
“Ever made love outdoors? Want to? I’m feeling a Christmas present in the making…LOL”
“Bet you would look pretty sexy in a Santa hat, thigh high boots…and nothing else”
“All I want for Christmas is you…naked”
Tip 3: Be Supportive
For some people holidays can be an extremely stressful period of time, especially for those who are forced to attend family gatherings filled with mine fields of emotions and intrigue. So, if your sweetie is facing the thought of a rough Christmas dinner, send a sweet remember that you are only a phone call away.
“Just because I’m not there doesn’t mean I can’t help you. Remember, I’ve always got your back.”
“Hope the people you are spending Christmas with today know how lucky they are…”
Getting Back in Touch With “Good Friends”
As you probably already know, these types of holiday text messages can be the hardest to pull off, so proceed with care! Send messages with opened ended questions so the recipient can easily reply. Sending something ‘heavy’ or overly sexual is usually not the best approach. I would suggest to not get too personal with the initial text message, as they may not be sure what to say, or maybe they have another partner.
Tip 1: Send A Photo
It could be any kind of photo, such as a beautiful landscape photo, or maybe a funny Christmas quote or video.
“Hey, Merry Christmas! Bet you can’t guess where I am right now?” (attach photo of some place you enjoyed together)
Tip 2: Ask For Travel Advice
Even if you’re not sure if they have ever been to where you’re at, ask them for an address or fun ideas. It’s a “safe” way to get the conversation flowing and break the ice.
“Hey there, Merry Christmas! How are you? I remember you mentioned that you visited [name of place] Any ideas on what I should see or do?”
Tip 3: Be Specific
Regardless of the type of holiday text message you send, be personal so they know that you are not just copying and pasting the same message to everyone in your address book. It is important to put into context what you ate/saw/drank and why it reminded you of them.
“Merry Christmas! This is kinda out of the blue, but I just went past XYZ and thought of you. How are things?”
Tip 4: Be Sincere
In my opinion, you can almost never go wrong when you reach out to someone with good intentions. So, keep it simple and genuinely wish them a Merry Christmas.
“Hi Carl, Merry Christmas to you and your family! Hope the IT business is going well, and you’re still training like a champ!”
Holiday Text Messages For Every Relationship Summary
Before you aimlessly send text messages to your partner or “ex-friend”, identify and evaluate what type of relationship you share. For example, if you’re at the point where you’d like to take it to the next level, but perhaps your partner isn’t? Relax. In this case, send something on the lighter side, and wait to talk about “heavy” topics such as moving in together, or being exclusive until you can chat in person.
Christmas is a merry time of year, but it doesn’t give you the right to send your partner anything you feel like…follow these tips and you’ll be well on your way to mastering appropriate holiday text messages.
Merry Christmas! 🙂