When you’ve got a jealous girlfriend on your hands, life can be pretty rough. Everything you do is scrutinized, from where you go to who you hang out with. Life is very stressful all of a sudden!
And when a female leaves comments on your Facebook? All hell breaks loose until you manage to explain that it was your only your mom!
The thing is that it’s key to take to take a look at yourself and your own actions when you have a jealous girlfriend.
Are you doing things intentionally or unintentionally that are triggering her?
Could you be doing things to reassure her that she has nothing to worry about?
One of the main reasons a girl gets jealous is because of the way you text her. While texting can be a weapon, it can also work against you. In this article, we take a look at how to text a jealous girlfriend.
1. Don’t Lash Out
If your girlfriend shows jealousy via text, the last thing you should do is lash out at her.
She isn’t jealous for no reason. Picture as best you can how she feels at the moment: she’s scared and vulnerable. The last thing she needs is to feel your wrath because she’s had the gall to question you.
Comfort her with love and reassurance if she shows jealousy. She’s feeling insecure right now. What she doesn’t want from you is a denial that you’re doing anything wrong; what she wants is to SEE your love.
So remind her that you love her. Include emojis in your text and lots of kisses.
2. Don’t Leave Her Hanging Too Long
We understand that, when you’re out and about and busy with life, you don’t want to be constantly checking your phone and replying to her. That’s normal and healthy.
But put yourself in her shoes for a moment. If you go for days without texting her, it’s going to make her jealousy worse.
While you don’t need to reply to texts instantly, you need to show some understanding and respect here. If you’re away on a trip with your buddies, send a quick hi. [Tweet “Let her know you’re safe, having a good time and that you miss her”]
If your jealous girlfriend expects you to text her every 5 minutes, you probably need to have a chat with her, that is definitely not healthy behavior, and you might want to reconsider your relationship.
3. Send Her Pics
While we agree that you shouldn’t have to send your girlfriend photo evidence of what you’re up to (because this really isn’t the foundation of a healthy relationship!), you could just send her pics from time to time, because, that’s what couples do!
Cute picture messages will make her day, and show that you are thinking of her even when she’s not there.
4. Make An Effort
Remember when the two of you were first getting to know each other via text? Back then she probably wasn’t a jealous girlfriend.
And back then, you probably put in a lot more effort than you perhaps do these days.
You probably went the extra mile when it came to texting. You told her your best jokes, sent her “good morning” texts, flirted and did all that you could to make sure that girl knows you care.
Ask yourself if after you started dating her, your effort levels went way down. Did all of a sudden, all of your hilarious texts get replaced with “lol” texts, and your flirting game consists of an emoji?
If you know that you’ve eased off on the effort front, it’s time to step up your texting game again. Be funny again and make her laugh. Flirt like you used to, ask questions and stop with the one sentence, mundane texts.
Remember, when you’re not with her, texting is your primary form of communication. If you’re hardly using it anymore, she’ll be wondering why.
5. Show An Interest In Your Jealous Girlfriend
When was the last time you asked her a deep, intimate question in person?
When was the last time you showed real interest in her?
Responding to her “how was your day?” text with a “not bad, yours?” line does not count. For your girl to feel needed, wanted and reassured, she wants to see you taking a genuine interest in her.
So show her that you still want to find new things out about her. Ask about her day and her passions. And when she responds, listen, absorb and ask more questions based on her answers.
Above all, comfort her, have open communication and make an effort. A lot of jealousy can be avoided with open communication and effort from both parties, so don’t be afraid to talk about her jealousy. Maybe she doesn’t even realize it, or maybe she had something happen in the past that you don’t know about. If you feel strongly about her, try to sort it out. If she doesn’t change, ask yourself if you are in the right relationship or not.
Voila! 5 ways to deal with a jealous girlfriend via text.