Recently, I realized that I was attracted to someone because they filled a need I had in my life. It was not love. I was in love with the idea of a person without knowing who they really were or why I wanted them so badly.

When I opened my eyes to how they acted, how they treated me and how it all made me feel…I realized that it was a toxic situation. I was chasing something unreal, someone unobtainable. It was time to start letting go.

Letting Go Of A Bad Dream

Sometimes certain people are just out of reach. For you, for anyone, for now or maybe even forever…

Obstacles, or barriers to connecting with a person often become visible late in the game, when you are already in too deep to come out unscathed.

There could be distance, priorities, timing, age, ideals…or a sour mixture that prevents a relationship from progressing, makes us hold a part of ourselves back or makes us scared of what will happen.

The sooner we see it’s not the right fit, instead of pushing to fix it will make things easier in the long run.

Realism is not a curse when it comes to relationships.

Chasing after someone who doesn’t compliment where you are right now at this exact moment in your life is just going to make you miserable.

Chasing after someone who isn’t looking for someone like you is just going to make you feel worthless, bad about yourself, bad about relationships and sad about love.

It’s just not worth it.

Trying to mold a person to fit you and your situation is an unachievable task. We are all human, with free will, differences and our own weaknesses as well as strengths.

We need to allow a partner to be the best version of themselves, not who we idolize them to be.

The World’s Greatest

The same goes with ourselves; the ideal person should bring out the greatest we can be at any given time.

Letting go of someone you imagine in your head to be a different person, or after idolizing a relationship to be so much better than reality, can be hard. But sometimes hard things need to be done in order to move on.

Cutting someone out of your life or taking a step back to re-evaluate hurts. It might feel like failure, but it’s not. Failure is continuing to hurt yourself, to fall deeper and deeper into a pool of self-doubt and confusion.

Smart is using your energy to improve yourself. Make yourself the best version of you. Then smile, talk to people, walk with purpose and focus on others…and you will find something (or someone) that is perfect for you.

In fact, you may find someone who is even more incredible than you could have ever imagined. So go ahead. Give yourself permission.

Letting go is the only way to go.


Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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