Regardless of where you are in your relationship, flirty good night text messages show your partner just how important they are to you. If you’re just getting to know someone, digital flirting can be a little daunting – where and how do you start? The same applies if you have been together for ages, but never really ventured down this path. Read on for some ideas on flirting with your sweetheart at night, from serious to silly!

Seriously, what’s better than falling asleep to flirty good night text messages? When you truly care about someone, you start associating them with feelings of happiness and security. Late at night, when you’re all cozy in bed, receiving a text from your special someone is a surefire way to sleep like an angel. We have put together creative message ideas for new couples, people in established relationships, and long-term partners. Enjoy!

Flirty Good Night Text Messages For New Relationships

Sending nightly texts to your crush or new boyfriend or girlfriend is an excellent way to foster intimacy. It places both of you in a cherished spot in each other’s life; after all, even best friends don’t always send each other good night texts!

When you’re just starting out with someone, there are a few rules you need to follow when showering them with flirty good night text messages.

First, be aware of what time they go to bed. It’s a big no-no to wake them up only an hour after they’ve been asleep!

Second, realize that late at night is not the right moment to discuss your problems – you don’t want your special someone’s last thoughts of you before drifting off to sleep to be negative.

Third, respect the fact that bedtime is their time to unwind; therefore, don’t bother them with lengthy questions that require research or a massive amount of effort. Instead, keep it light and fun!

Example 1

Goal: Share your positive energy.
If they had a rough day, bring up one of their past success stories. Be specific. It will help them shift their thoughts to something positive rather than the current issue that has been frustrating or annoying them.

“Good night Ms. Discipline, sweet dreams! I’m so impressed how you stick to your new healthy diet. You’re a star. Soft kisses”

Example 2
Goal: Let them know you’re thinking of them.
Bring up something specific that you’re currently doing that made you think of them.

“I hope you sleep well. I just [read/watched/heard] a beautiful [book/film/song] that made me think about you… can’t seem to get you out of my mind.”

Example 3

Goal: Make them excited to see you.
Before signing off for the day, let them know you’re thinking about the next time you’ll be together.

“Sleep tight Sexy! I can’t wait for our date. Only 33 hours to go…and counting.”

Or, if you don’t have anything planned yet:

“Goodnight Ms. Bombshell! Crafting some creative weekend plans for us…want to keep them a surprise, but I’ll give you a hint tomorrow.”

Example 4

Goal: Compliment them.
Send one last flirty compliment for the day.

“Get some rest! By the way, you looked very [beautiful/handsome] in [whatever they were wearing] today. Still have the image of you in my mind.”

Example 5

Goal: Show that you care about their physical and emotional health, especially if something has been taxing them lately.

“Sleep and then sleep some more. I need you in top form…remember, home made soup is only a phone call away.”

Example 6

Goal: Play “if I was there” and let them know what you would be up to if you were together.

“If I was there you would find out what it really means to be cozy under the covers…sweet dreams. Xo”

Flirty Good Night Text Messages For Established Couples

After you’ve been dating a while, flirty good night text messages are still a wonderful way to prove how smitten you are with your partner. After all, you have had your share of nights together, yet you still think of them before going to bed, after all that time…When partners are forced to live apart, saying goodnight via text is a great way to show that they are still a priority in your life.

Example 1

Goal: Let them know how important they are by taking a moment out of your super busy evening just to say goodnight.

“Still working away, but I wanted to take a break to say goodnight to the [prettiest girl/most handsome guy] in my life.”

Example 2

Goal: Go for some old-fashioned flirting, and get dreamy. Not every dream has to be sweet or sexy, you could also be cute and text:

“I’ll dream about you if you dream about me. Deal? ☺”

Example 3

Goal: Give them “sweet dream” material.
Send your partner a special photo, either of yourself, or of something soft and pleasing such as cute animals, a beautiful sunset, a deserted beach.

Example 4

Goal: Cement your bond even further.
Do the two of you have a mutual interest, such as a television show, book series, or hobby? If so, text something specific

“Are you going to fall asleep watching True Detective? Let’s watch it together. It will make me feel close to you.”

“How was your jog? Will you be in need of one of my “special” massages tomorrow?”

Example 5

Goal: Make plans.
Organize a fun activity for the next day…not sure about the exact plans yourself? Sometimes it’s even more fun to be vague and make them wonder.

“Any plans tomorrow after work? I just might have a little idea up my sleeve that I’m sure you’d like…a lot.”

Flirty Good Night Text Messages For Couples Living Together

Even if you’re married or have been with your partner for years and years, there’s no reason to skip on a little evening flirtation.

Example 1

Goal: Check in on your busy little bee who’s still stuck somewhere slaving away.
Is your partner working late? Pep them up with what they can look forward to when they finally arrive back at home base.

“I’m heading to bed, but I’m still anxiously waiting one of your sweet good night kisses when you get home.”

“So impressed with your work ethic…in fact, it’s quite a turn-on for me. I’ll be waiting…”

Example 2

Goal: Check in with “home base” from afar.
Or, are you the “late shifter” who still has the annual budget to finalize after everyone else has left the office? Your partner is probably feeling a bit lonely at home. Small things add up, so after letting them know you’ll be late, make the additional effort to send them a cute message.

“Night-night…and oh, just because you’re there first doesn’t mean you can hog the whole bed ☺”

“It’s chilly out, any chance you’re gonna warm my side of the bed up?”

Example 3

Goal: Get cozy under the covers.
If your partner is busy reading the kids a book or working on a project, let them know it’s bedtime! Even if they’re only 50 feet away, this is a cute and flirty way of showing how much you want to spend some intimate time together.

“Where are you, gorgeous? Bed is calling!”

“Yes, you look very handsome washing the paint out of your brushes, but now you’re needed “elsewhere”…”

Example 4

Goal: Let them know how you really feel.
Say something you’re too shy to say out loud, or voice a sentiment that’s better written than spoken. Here are a few ideas for flirty messages to send to a guy:

“Thanks for your help at the garage…really appreciated your advice and unwillingness to leave my side.”

“You’re my happily ever after.”

Example 5

Goal: Escape a boring activity and enjoy each others company instead.
Excuse yourselves from the party. If you want to be truly naughty, and escape a boring social gathering, text your partner a signal that it’s time to blow the joint.

“I can’t listen to this story one more time. Let’s head home to bed and start our own party.”

“Pass me the butter knife. Time to mosey. You in?”

Example 6

Goal: Say good night from a foreign place.
If you’re texting your long-term partner goodnight, then there’s a pretty good chance that one of you is away on a business trip or for a family gathering. Let them know they are missed:

“Good night sweetness. It’s hard to sleep when you’re not in my arms…luckily I can still smell you on your pillow.

“Called room service, but it seems “you” are not on the menu ☺ miss you.”

A Final Note About Emojis Before Signing Off

Emojis will instantly make your texts more playful. These are great for texts that may come across as vague or too serious, and help create a flirtier mood. Along with smiley faces, add some hearts, flowers and sexy emojis (if you dare) to spice up your flirty text messages. Just remember to use them like salt – in moderation.

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Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.
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  3. Hi claudia! Even though my crush knows how I feel about her and also haven’t told me anything yet concerning how I feel about her. What’s the next plan. What should I do to win her heart as I pray along for God to touch heart?
    Hope to hear from u as soon as possible…thanks!

    1. Hi Frank,
      If I understand correctly, your crush knows that you like her, but she hasn’t told you yet that she likes you? If that is the case, try to get to know her better and show her what a catch you are 🙂 Send her random messages just to check in and see how she’s doing. Engage when she posts something on Social Media. Text her funny gifs or other things you know she’d like…and don’t forget to call her (just make sure that you know she’s not busy).
      Good luck!

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